Programmer, investor and entrepreneur James Altucher, who has already launched several startups, published on TechCrunch very simple, useful and honest instructions for those who want to radically change their field of activity, but do not know where to start. Below is the translation of this article.

Here's what it's like: I've been down a few times, I've come back to life a few times, I've done it again and again. I started new careers. People who knew me then don't know me now. And so on.

I started my career from scratch several times. Sometimes - because my interests changed. Sometimes - because all the bridges were burned completely, and sometimes because I desperately needed money. And sometimes because I hated everyone at my old job or they hated me.

There are other ways to reinvent yourself, so take what I say with a grain of salt. This is what worked in my case. I've seen this work for about a hundred other people. According to interviews, according to letters that have been written to me over the past 20 years. You can try it - or not.

1. Change never ends

Every day you reinvent yourself. You are always on the move. But every day you decide where exactly you are moving: forward or backward.

2. Start with a clean slate

All your past shortcuts are just vanity. Were you a doctor? An Ivy League graduate? Owned millions? Did you have a family? Nobody cares. You have lost everything. You are zero. Don't try to say that you are something more.

3. You need a mentor

Otherwise you will go down. Someone needs to show you how to move and breathe. But don't worry about finding a mentor (see below).

4. Three types of mentors

Straight. Someone ahead of you who will show you how they got there. What does "this" mean? Wait. By the way, the mentors are not like Jackie Chan’s character in the movie “The Karate Kid.” Most mentors will hate you.

Indirect. Books. Movies. You can get 90% of your instruction from books and other materials. 200–500 books equals a good mentor. When people ask me, “What is a good book to read?” - I don’t know what to answer them. There are 200-500 good books worth reading. I would turn to inspirational books. Whatever you believe, strengthen your beliefs with daily reading.

Anything can be a mentor. If you are a nobody and want to reinvent yourself, everything you look at can become a metaphor for your desires and goals. The tree you see with roots out of sight and groundwater, which feed it, is a metaphor for programming if you connect the dots together. And everything you look at will “connect the dots.”

5. Don't worry if nothing excites you.

You care about your health. Start with him. Take small steps. You don't need passion to succeed. Do your work with love and success will become a natural symptom.

6. Time it takes to reinvent yourself: five years

Here is a description of these five years.

First year: you're floundering and reading everything and just starting to do something.

Second year: You know who you need to talk to and maintain working connections with. You do something every day. You finally understand what your own Monopoly game map looks like.

Third year: you are good enough to start making money. But for now, perhaps not enough to earn a living.

Fourth year: you provide for yourself well.

Fifth year: you make a fortune.

I got frustrated sometimes in the first four years. I asked myself: “Why hasn’t this happened yet?” - He hit the wall with his fist and broke his hand. It's okay, just keep going. Or stop and choose a new field of activity. It doesn't matter. Someday you will die, and then it will be really difficult to change.

7. If you do it too fast or too slow, something is going wrong.

A good example is Google.

8. It's not about the money

But money is a good measure. When people say, “It's not about the money,” they need to be sure they have some other unit of measurement. “How about you just do what you love?” There will be many days ahead when you won't like what you do. If you do it out of pure love, it will take much longer than five years. Happiness is just a positive reaction from your brain. Some days you will be unhappy. Your brain is just a tool, it does not define who you are.

9. When is it okay to say, “I’m doing X”? When does X become your new profession?

10. When can I start doing X?

Today. If you want to paint, buy canvas and paints today, start buying 500 books one at a time and paint pictures. If you want to write, do these three things:

Read

If you want to start your own business, start coming up with a business idea. Re-creating yourself begins today. Every day.

11. When will I earn money?

In a year, you will have invested 5,000–7,000 hours into this business. This is good enough to put you in the top 200-300 in the world in any specialty. Getting into the top 200 almost always provides a livelihood. By the third year you will understand how to make money. By the fourth, you will be able to increase your turnover and provide for yourself. Some people stop there.

12. By the fifth year you will be in the top 30-50, so you can make a fortune

13. How can I tell if it’s mine?

Any field in which you can read 500 books. Go to the bookstore and find it. If you get bored after three months, go to the bookstore again. It’s normal to get rid of illusions, that’s the meaning of defeat. Success is better than failure, but failures teach us the most important lessons. Very important: don’t rush. For my interesting life you can change yourself many times. And you will fail many times. It's fun too. These attempts will turn your life into a story book, not a textbook. Some people want their life to be a textbook. Mine is a book of stories, for better or worse. Therefore, changes occur every day.

14. The decisions you make today will be in your biography tomorrow.

Accept interesting solutions, and you will have an interesting biography.

15. The decisions you make today will become part of your biology.

16. What if I like something exotic? Biblical archeology or wars of the 11th century?

Repeat the above steps and by the fifth year you can become rich. We don't know how. There is no need to look for the end of the road when you are only taking the first steps.

17. What if my family wants me to become an accountant?

How many years of your life have you promised to give to your family? Ten? All life? Then wait for the next life. It's up to you to choose.

Choose freedom over family. Freedom, not prejudice. Freedom, not government. Freedom, not satisfying other people's needs. Then you will satisfy yours.

18. My mentor wants me to follow his path.

This is fine. Master his path. Then do it your way. Sincerely.

Luckily, no one is holding a gun to your head. Then you would have to comply with his demands until he puts the gun down.

19. My husband (wife) is worried: who will take care of our children?

A person who changes himself always finds free time. Part of changing yourself is finding moments and reframing them in the way you would like to use them.

20. What if my friends think I'm crazy?

What kind of friends are these?

21. What if I want to be an astronaut?

This is not changing yourself. This is a specific profession. If you like space, there are many careers. Richard Branson wanted to be an astronaut and created Virgin Galactic.

22. What if I like to drink and hang out with friends?

Read this post again in a year.

23. What if I'm busy? Am I cheating on my spouse or betraying my partner?

Read this post again in two or three years, when you are broke, without a job and everyone has turned their backs on you.

24. What if I don’t know how to do anything at all?

Read point 2 again.

25. What if I don’t have a diploma or it’s of no use?

Read point 2 again.

26. What if I need to focus on paying off my mortgage or other loan?

Read point 19 again.

27. Why do I always feel like an outsider?

Albert Einstein was an outsider. No one in authority would hire him to work. Everyone sometimes feels like an impostor. The greatest creativity comes from skepticism.

28. I can't read 500 books. Name one book you should read for inspiration

Then you can give up right away.

29. What if I’m too sick to change myself?

The change will spur the production of beneficial substances in your body: serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin. Move forward and you may not get completely better, but you will become healthier. Don't use health as an excuse.

Finally, rebuild your health first. Get more sleep. Eat better. Play sports. These are the key steps to change.

30. What if my partner set me up and I’m still getting married to him?

Drop the lawsuit and never think about him again. Half the problem was you.

31. What if I am sent to prison?

Wonderful. Re-read point 2. Read more books in prison.

32. What if I am a timid person?

Make your weakness your strength. Introverts are better at listening and concentrating, and they know how to evoke sympathy.

33. What if I can’t wait five years?

If you plan to be alive in five years, you can start today.

34. How to make contacts?

Build concentric circles. You should be in the middle. The next circle is friends and family. Then - online communities. Then - people you know from informal meetings and tea parties. Then there are conference participants and opinion leaders in their field. Then - mentors. Then there are the clients and those who make money. Start making your way through these circles.

35. What if my ego starts getting in the way of what I'm doing?

In six months or a year you will return to point 2.

36. What if I'm passionate about two things at once? And I can't choose?

Combine them and you will be the best in the world at this combination.

37. What if I am so passionate that I want to teach others what I am learning myself?

Read lectures on YouTube. Start with an audience of one and see if it grows.

38. What if I want to earn money in my sleep?

In the fourth year, start outsourcing what you do.

39. How to find mentors and experts?

Once you have enough knowledge (after 100-200 books), write 10 ideas for 20 different potential mentors.

None of them will answer you. Write 10 more ideas for 20 new mentors. Repeat this every week.

40. What if I can’t come up with ideas?

Then practice it. The thinking muscles tend to atrophy. They need to be trained.

I will have a hard time reaching my toes if I don't practice every day. I need to do this exercise every day for some time before this pose becomes easy for me. Don't expect to have good ideas from day one.

42. What if I do everything you say, but nothing seems to work?

It will work out. Just wait. Keep changing yourself every day.

Don't try to find the end of the path. You won't be able to see it in the fog. But you can see the next step, and you will realize that if you take it, you will eventually reach the end of the road.

43. What if I start to feel depressed?

Sit in silence for an hour a day. You need to get back to your core.

If you think it sounds stupid, don't do it. Move on with your depression.

44. What if there is no time to sit in silence?

Then sit in silence for two hours a day. This is not meditation. You just have to sit.

45. What if I get scared?

Sleep 8-9 hours a night and never engage in gossip. Sleep is the first secret good health. Not the only one, but the first. Some people write to me that four hours of sleep is enough for them or that in their country those who sleep a lot are considered lazy. These people will fail and die young.

When it comes to gossip, our brains are biologically programmed to have 150 friends. And when you talk to one of your friends, you might gossip about one of the other 150. And if you don't have 150 friends, your brain will want to read gossip magazines until it thinks it has 150 friends.

Don't be as stupid as your brain.

46. ​​What if it seems to me that I will never succeed?

Practice gratitude for 10 minutes a day. Don't suppress your fear. Notice your anger.

But also allow yourself to be grateful for what you have. Anger never inspires, but gratitude never inspires. Gratitude is the bridge between your world and the parallel universe where all creative ideas live.

47. What if I constantly have to deal with some personal squabbles?

Find other people to be around.

A person who changes himself will constantly encounter people who try to suppress him. The brain is afraid of change - it may be unsafe. Biologically, the brain wants safety for you, and change is risk. So your brain will give you people trying to stop you.

Learn to say no.

Each person acts as he sees fit. We have our own inner beliefs, which we express through actions. We manifest them outwardly because we cannot do otherwise. What leads to poverty, excess weight, frustration, loss of friends is hidden deep within a person.

Remember how many promises you have made to yourself throughout your life. They said, for example, that you would not be rude, raise your voice at people, smoke, drink, or eat fatty foods after six in the evening. But already at eleven at night, you are sitting in the kitchen and eating cake, despite your promise.

Due to the fact that we have no idea how to change internally, we often begin to make mistakes and complicate the situation. We get angry at ourselves for our lack of willpower and constantly blame ourselves for mistakes and failures. Stop blaming yourself and say: “Now I am free. I have a goal to become a self-sufficient person, successful in everything I want. I deserve to be happy, and accept it as a gift.”

Many of us think that they are absolutely helpless in this life and lose interest in everything, seeing only loneliness and hopelessness around them. Such hopelessness arises from many disappointments, pain and resentment, and leads to an unwillingness to live life to the fullest. Stop! Ask yourself what is the reason for this disappointment that makes you so angry. The more anger you pour into this world, the angrier you become. Think about it, you were angry, perhaps even at the moment you read the previous paragraph. You must understand how to change in better side. And we will help you.

The beginning of change

Decide for yourself that you want to take your life in a different direction. Do not doubt, every person has enough strength within himself to understand for himself how to change both externally and internally. You need to change your worldview, your train of thought, overcome stubbornness, and then change will come.

Exercises

You don’t yet know how you can change, but you already have this desire inside you. Tell yourself that you want to become better, and more than once, repeat it at every opportunity. Believe in change and it will happen. What you think is impossible to change in you needs to be changed first. By repeating the phrase: “I want to become different,” you use the Power of the Universe to help you.

Look in the mirror when you say to yourself “I want to become different”, listen to your feelings. If you feel contradictions, do not despair and do not blame yourself, because it is very difficult to change quickly. Try to figure out which thought is causing you to doubt. Dissolve it. Then, go back to the mirror and say something nice about yourself. This kind of eye contact with yourself should definitely help.

How to change a lot and start new life? Change your beliefs, your thoughts. If a negative thought persists, catch yourself on it and banish it once and for all. It is possible, we can control every thought.

Principles of working on yourself:

• Mind control.
• The desire to change yourself.
• Forgiveness of all grievances.

After deciding to start changes, you need to learn to control your mind. You can use him as you wish, he is your instrument, subject to your desire. And not vice versa. Think about it. To find harmony, control the thoughts and words you say, as they have incredible power and create all the situations in your life. But in reality, you are the master of your mind.

Leave the past in the past

I have been working as a psychologist for many years and have heard more than once from my patients that what prevents them from being happy in the present is their sad past, where they were offended, traumatized, wounded to the very heart. Now they have lost all the values ​​and meaning of life, they cannot forget events from the past, they cannot love, they cannot forgive. And if they forgot and forgave, their life would again show its charms.

Treat all events from the past as memories without emotional evaluation. Forgive everyone who has ever harmed you and you will find the answers you need. The most important thing is love. Only real love can change us radically. Love for others, love for the world. But without forgiveness, it does not come.

Exercise to deal with grievances

While in silence, imagine in front of you a small stage in a dimly lit theater, on which the person who offended you is standing. It doesn't matter whether he's alive or not, you need to overcome your hatred. Mentally imagine that good things are happening to him, he is really happy. Remember his image like this. Then get on stage yourself. You smile too, because there is enough goodness in the world for everyone. This simple exercise will dissolve your resentment if you learn to do it correctly. Work on yourself, get to know yourself as deeply as possible, and the world will change with you for the better, giving you the opportunity to find true happiness.

If, when asked whether a person is happy, he says yes without hesitation, it means that the way he lives, what he does, the people around him, etc., suits him perfectly and every day brings him a lot of positive emotions that provide a boost of strength for new achievements. Those who were less fortunate, or rather, who lacked something in order to fulfill their desires - perseverance, patience or courage, will most likely think twice before claiming their happiness, because their plans were not realized.

Phrases like “it’s impossible to change”, “I don’t have enough character to achieve more” are absolute nonsense, because according to psychologists, it’s quite possible to change yourself, and thanks to such changes, you can change your life.

Each of us wants to change ourselves in some way: get rid of shyness or irritability, become more purposeful or cheerful... Changes do not happen instantly. Transformation is a road that we must walk step by step.

What awaits us on the path of change

1. Insight

In general, you are satisfied with everything about the way you live - everything is convenient and seems to be safe. But something is happening. Vivid or completely invisible, it disrupts the usual way of your life, and you suddenly feel an unpleasant stirring of dissatisfaction in your soul. Reality seems to be pushing you: think about it, is this the kind of person you wanted to live?

The awareness of the desire to change one’s character comes suddenly. Something happens that tears off the blinders of everyday life, forcing us to rise above the everyday routine and ask the question: “Who am I and how do I live? Am I happy with this? Do I always want to live like this?” Various internal and external events, intense or not very intense, positively or negatively colored, can push you to such a conversation with yourself. Illness, dismissal from work, good book, betrayal of a spouse or a chance meeting with a friend.

But in fact, this fateful event that provokes insight is only a trigger that opens the floodgates of consciousness to thoughts that previously remained outside of it.

Most likely, you have been thinking about this for a long time, but did not fully realize your own dissatisfaction - it was too convenient to live according to habit, without changing anything.

You suppressed irritation, did not notice the decrease in self-esteem, compared yourself with someone who had achieved more... And then a meeting with a fellow student who touched something inside, causing both delight and indignation at a way of thinking and lifestyle different from yours... These moments lead to acute awareness of the need to change internally - in order to become yourself. Getting carried away with ideas, making plans and realizing our desires often paradoxically takes us away from ourselves. We get used to imperfections, restrictions and almost no longer feel tightness and spasms. That’s why it’s so important at the moment of insight not to ignore your own feelings, but to listen and try to understand yourself. Why, for example, has it ceased to be interesting in the company of friends or no longer wants to perform feats of labor.

2. Uncertainty

This stage is a test of the strength of our thirst for change. He either confirms your desire to become different, or nullifies noble impulses. How valuable are new ideas to you personally? What is this - a manifestation of your nature or a stupid attempt to put on someone else's dress? A period of doubt will help separate the wheat from the chaff...

“It would be great, but...”, “How will my loved ones perceive this?”, “Will I find more than I lose?”, “Will I be happier than I am now?” - these questions overcome us as soon as we decide to change our lives. Any change means taking risks. After all, you are moving away from your usual state towards uncertainty. It's always scary not to be able to predict the future with 100% certainty.

However, the stage of doubt is necessary. Uncertainty does not deprive us of freedom of choice - it only creates the conditions for our choice to be conscious. This stage makes it possible to avoid mistakes inherent in rash actions. It allows us to assess the importance of what we are going to do and the risks we are willing to take in the name of change.

Uncertainty allows us to evaluate the importance of what we are going to do and the risks we are willing to take in the name of change.

However, if we doubt for too long, it kills our desire to change our character. We “cool down,” lose the energy needed for action, and return to the starting position. Perhaps your expectations from change are excessive, and the bar is too high? Ask yourself honestly what you expect from change, do you realize that working on yourself will require a lot of effort and time and, perhaps, the ability to rise after defeat and start again? And if, after frank answers to these questions, the goal does not become less desirable, limit the time of hesitation and make up your mind.

3. Resistance

After the period of doubt comes a stage of resistance to change. He is characterized by the thoughts “I won’t succeed,” “I’m not capable of such actions.” Is this a reason to abandon the plan?

Inside each of us lives a kind of saboteur who does not want to change his life and blocks all our efforts. Sigmund Freud was the first to discover this universal property of the psyche and call it “resistance.” The function of resistance is to counteract the awareness of desires, feelings or ideas that can destroy the established self-image and lead to changes in life or relationships dear to us. Despite the fact that this is the terminology of psychoanalysis, we constantly observe manifestations of resistance in everyday life - remember how often we tend not to recognize obvious things!

An instrument of resistance is a formed system of attitudes, unique filters through which we look at our lives.

In everyday situations, they can greatly help us, automating routine decision-making, saving enormous amounts of time and energy. The uniqueness of these attitudes determines our character and shapes our individuality. “The best is the enemy of the good”, “I am always right”, “I must” - you need to know these attitudes and take them for granted. This will allow you to make an “adjustment” for them in the situation of making an important decision.

At first, this will not always be successful, and even then only in hindsight. For example, you realize that the reason for yesterday’s quarrel with your husband is that the eternal “I know better” worked. You should not try to forcefully “turn off” your filter starting tomorrow. This will only create an “overfilter” designed to control the previous one, and will only complicate your system of attitudes and slow down the movement towards change. Just know your settings. By being aware of them, you will be able to make a choice, use usual way thinking or try to look at the state of things in a way that is unusual for you.

4. Implementation of the plan

Internal transformation is a long path of specific small steps-actions aimed at realizing your plans. Having gone through three stages of change, you have come to perceived need transformation. What happens next? How do you feel about yourself? Do you consider yourself by and large a good man? A positive, healthy self-attitude will help you move towards your goal effectively and at a good pace, while self-blame, which may have pushed you to work on yourself, will be a serious obstacle. Therefore, self-forgiveness, self-acceptance and a kind attitude towards oneself are very important in order for the process of changing one’s character to begin.

Violent activity and a sharp transition to a different behavior are not always signs of internal changes. Radical actions are more likely to indicate a superficial belief that everything will happen instantly and easily, while personal transformation involves deep, lasting changes that manifest themselves in the most ordinary, everyday actions. These are moments of reflection, spoken words of gratitude to my wife, an attentive conversation with my teenage daughter. Every day, every minute Everyday life doing ordinary things with a goal orientation is a recipe for profound change.

217 379 6 Life is amazing and beautiful in all its manifestations, with ups and downs, sorrows and joys, pros and cons... Simply because it exists. But if there are more and more downs and downs along the way, depression and apathy prevent you from being happy and the feeling that everything has reached a dead end does not let go, then it means it’s time to change your life for the better. And you need to do this, even when you don’t want to change at all.

We approached the preparation of this article very responsibly. It contains materials from various published publications, conferences, trainings and of course personal experience. The article is filled with practical advice, the awareness and application of which will certainly lead to changes in your life. We'll tell you where to start. Each person must determine further actions for himself individually, in accordance with what he wants to receive. Well, let's go! How to change your life for the better.

How to change your life for the better

Where do thoughts about life changes come from?

Everyone wants to be happy, but in order to make the dream come true, sitting and waiting in one place is not enough. Therefore we have to act.

At first thoughts come that say that that’s enough, this is no longer possible! And they, in turn, materialize into actions. This, of course, with a responsible approach to your own life. After all, without doing anything to change the situation, you can bring yourself to a moral emptiness (which is very undesirable, since it is difficult to get out of there). In this regard, whenever the mind and soul are prompted to action, one should immediately begin making the first attempts to change one’s life.

First steps - where to start making changes ?

Everyone intuitively knows and feels that It's better to start with yourself. But it is very difficult to do this, and, in general, the first steps are always the most difficult. But the essence of the problem also lies in the fact that it is necessary to choose the only correct path along which it will be necessary to go, without turning, for some time. And also decide what exactly you would like to achieve. To do this you need:

1. Conduct a little research into your life and your own “I”. Think about what aspects you would like to correct, make better, what you don’t like at all, and what aspects it would be desirable to largely eliminate. It is easier to carry out such work not in the mind, but on a piece of paper, writing down all the exciting points, separating, of course, the positive from the negative.
2. Then you need to write down each position, that is, write opposite the desired one - why do you want to achieve this And how to achieve the goal. Those items on the list that have a negative connotation should also be written down, and then crossed out and forgotten about them.

It is precisely this action - writing down your desires, aspirations, needs on a piece of paper - that is the first step towards changing your life, becoming better! It's time for change! A checklist helps you most accurately determine your goal and understand what needs to be removed from your life and what needs to be added in order for it to satisfy you.

A start! But you cannot expect instant improvements, transformations and metamorphoses. This process is quite long and difficult. You need to have a lot of patience. Expecting quick changes can only ruin the whole mood, which will lead to an inevitable breakdown and a return to one’s “trough.”

To change your life you need to tirelessly, constantly work on yourself. It is possible that at first your head will be swarming with bad thoughts, the mind will seek all kinds of evidence that happiness is the lot of other people, etc. Almost everyone who has embarked on the path of positive change sins with this. The main thing is not to stop, pull yourself together and continue! And in order not to slip back into your previous attitudes again, you need to use the following recommendations and ways to change your life in a positive direction.

In order to achieve success in any business, you need to draw up a detailed plan actions. So, the first recommendation:

#1 Writing instructions

It is desirable that every maneuver on the way to the goal be considered in detail. This is important, because you can’t forget anything, everything needs to be done correctly. And then you can expect the desired effect.

Remember order in your head and thoughts = order in life! This should become an axiom on the path to change.

How to make a plan correctly? To do this, you should return to the very first step - your wish list. It has already outlined how to achieve each goal. And now this list will be very useful. Just so as not to miss a single detail and make detailed instructions from the notes.

Each list item can be presented in the form of a table. For example, there is a goal: lose weight .

Obstacles	What can help?	Actions	What will give you what you want?
1. Lack of willpower necessary to stick to the diet. 2. Food addiction. 3. Unhealthy snacks. 4. Eating problems.	1. Literature. 2. Internet. 3. Nutritionist, gastroenterologist and endocrinologist. 4. Marathon with a friend. 5. Motivating pictures.	1. Develop a menu for proper nutrition. 2. Gradually include sports (when?). 3. Weigh yourself once a week. 4. Come up with a reward system.	1. Health. 2. Beauty: clear skin, healthy complexion.

Of course, each table column can contain many more items. Everything is individual. It will also be useful to keep a diary or blog, where, in addition to the goals themselves, you can record your slightest achievements, describe your mistakes, etc.

#2 Mindset for the best results

Always, as soon as despondency and bad mood begin to gain ground again, you need to force yourself by force of will get back on the positive side. In any way: read affirmations, do something calming, listen to music, etc. It’s a good idea to always have some motivators on hand for such cases. At least just your own list, where everyone is listed good moments that will bring change.

You always need to remember for what purposes everything was started. Don’t be shy to tell yourself out loud that everything will work out, write down your achievements. After all, they are quickly erased from memory in the face of even the smallest failures. Seeing the dynamics of positive changes in front of you, it will be much easier to survive the period of loss of strength.

How to proceed correctly at this stage? You need to eliminate negativity from your life.

1. Avoid quarrels and arguments. And, in general, from all sorts of clashes with people.
2. Always find a compromise solution. Or you can simply ignore the conflict situation.
3. Learn to enjoy the little things, pay attention only to the bright, kind, positive things around you. This leads to good changes and facilitates the transition to a new stage of one’s existence.
4. You need to let go of your past. Forgive yourself all the negative, sad moments, imperfect actions, etc. Now you should think about a new life, but you need to be “here and now.”

Of course, on the path to happiness, there will be breakdowns and explosions. But we must not allow them to cross out the entire path that has been made and return it to the level from which it began, if not lower. Full time job above yourself will not allow this to happen.

#3 Unnecessary and bad habits are a force pulling you back

This means not only alcohol, smoking, etc. But, in general, all habits that do not go into a new one. happy life. What could it be? It's simple:

• speak obscenities;
• going to bed late, constantly being in a state of extreme lack of sleep;
• forget promises;
• to be lazy;
• put everything off until tomorrow;
• there is a lot to eat or convey;
• watch TV often;
• play toys on the phone;
• forget to wash your hair :)
• biting nails, etc.

Everyone will continue the list for themselves. Ideal people no, but no one is stopping you from striving for perfection. By getting rid of harmful things and acquiring useful things, you will feel better and more confident in yourself.. Getting rid of addictions is difficult, but fun and important process on the road to how to change your life for the better. This point must be included in the plan for joyful changes. And today start replacing harmful things with useful ones. For example, normalize sleep, eliminate watching television from your daily routine, review your diet, etc. Over time (perhaps not immediately), the new habit will take root and bring you one step closer to a wonderful positive future. If you are familiar with this feeling, then remember it more often: the feeling when you realize that you have done a tremendous amount of work on yourself and have achieved a certain breakthrough! This will give you self-confidence, strength to move on, set new goals.

#4 Opening up to people - moving forward

• You can’t hide from people, your family, loved ones, friends, colleagues.. This refers to those who can encourage, support, and simply lift the spirit with their presence. If someone you know has something that is on your wish list, then you need to impartially consider the situation and think about what action allowed this person to have your dream. It’s better to ask how he went towards this goal and achieved it. Perhaps the advice will turn out to be practical, and today it will be possible to fit them into your own plan.

• You should communicate more with friends. It is not necessary to share your experiences and problems, especially if you don’t want to do this. You can just charge positive energy from a pleasant pastime, sweet conversations. The world seems much more beautiful when there is a person in the world whom you can rely on.
• But contacts with angry, pessimistic, and sad people should be significantly limited. And if possible, avoid them completely.

A good incentive for personal growth is the person nearby, to whom you need to grow, and not fall!

By the way, new acquaintances also allow you to move forward, changing previous ideas and attitudes towards new directions in life. After all, they teach you to open up to the world.

#5 Interests and hobbies are what you need!

We need to remember what we were interested in as a child. This is often where the calling lies. For example, you really liked collecting autumn leaves or clumsy sticks that looked like animals, sewing or knitting, decorating old furniture, cook or bake, draw something on whatman paper, teach other children new foreign words, etc. Or maybe not in childhood, but in adult and quite conscious life, I wanted to do something, but everything somehow didn’t get around to it or were overcome by doubts. But any person who finds himself in what he loves is happy. So why don't you become happy too!?

In addition, interests can be quite mundane. If you enjoy reading, doing handicrafts, or playing sports, then it’s worth setting aside time for this. And when it seems that nothing interests you, then it only seems. A huge number of things exist in this world in order to distract from sad thoughts and not allow despondency to win and push you back to the beginning of the path. There are many interesting courses and activities that can inspire. And inspiration brings joy!

Step by step comes the realization that there is no turning back, that the heart is completely open to change, the best and most beautiful changes in life. But the recommendations listed are not quite enough to turn the world upside down. in a good way. Therefore, more advice that will change your life is vital.

How to start a new life and change yourself? You don't need to be a superman to do this. All methods are incredibly simple. The main thing is to start and over time there will be no trace of pessimism, suffering and complaints.

1. None best methods Changing your life will not help if you constantly clog your body. It is necessary to pay attention to quality and... We are what we eat! It is not necessary to eat only vegetables and fruits from your own garden and not drink alcohol at all. You just need to limit the flow of garbage inside as much as possible.
2. It's worth starting to learn another language. This will not only expand your worldview in amazing ways, but will also be a great opportunity for professional change. Sometimes, when trying to remember a new word, you start to think about its meaning and look for synonyms. All this leads to the development of thinking, forces us to go beyond the ordinary, thus leading to change. And besides, now knowledge of English is more a necessity than a whim.
3. Need to read more. Not magazines and other light reading, but something for development in your specialty. Or classics, sociology, psychology, history, etc. You don’t have to read, but listen. The main thing is to have at least one book in 7 days. That works out to about 52 per year. Fifty-two works that are sure to change your life.
4. Weekends should not be spent on the couch. Anywhere - in the gym, in nature, in a museum, at the cinema, at an exhibition, in another city or visiting relatives. You can even jump with a parachute, learn to ride a horse, touch type, etc. The main thing is to accumulate more impressions, they fill life, with them it becomes much more interesting. No need to sit still. We need to expand our horizons and the area of ​​contact with the world. Change starts with movement.
5. A personal blog or diary will help you deal with problems faster than they become unbearable.. Their benefit lies in the ability to reason, think and analyze. And it’s better to write in them about what you love most. And if Personal diary maybe no one will read it, then the blog will certainly find its fans, and will also help you earn extra money. And doing what you like and getting paid for it is the dream of many. After all, very often the opposite is true.
6. If you learn to manage your time, life will become much easier. We must develop the habit of making decisions immediately, acting today, and not tomorrow or “later.” Everything that is planned must be done or transferred to the shoulders of another. But, the main thing is that the planned tasks are completed and not postponed indefinitely. Otherwise, they will become a dead weight pulling you down. And we need to fly up! It would also be a good idea to remember everything unfulfilled and write it down. Understand whether there is a need under the given circumstances to complete these matters. If not, then with peace of mind you can cross them out. If yes, then do them soon. This will bring incredible relief and release a lot of new and much needed strength.
7. You should give up stupid spending time on the Internet, especially games, which steal not only time, but also life. If you use the limitless possibilities of the network, then only for good - for development, training, work, etc. And it’s better to communicate with friends live. What could be more beautiful than personal meetings, conversations, tactile sensations, laughter, smiles? Shared pleasant memories are created this way, not by emoticons on the World Wide Web.
8. Stopping being interested in news does not mean falling behind the world. Everyone will talk about the main thing. And everything secondary and superficial only interferes with life, causing unnecessary worries, worries and overshadowing something really important. It's all confusing.
9. It is not for nothing that there is such a proverb - whoever gets up early, God gives him. Having learned to spend the morning hours profitably, you will very soon notice how much more things you can accomplish in a day. Much more than when you go to bed late. To get enough sleep a person needs 7 hours, provided that he leads a healthy lifestyle. If you go to bed at 23.00 and wake up at 06.00, then during your waking hours you can turn the whole world upside down. Today, more and more authors and personal growth coaches advise starting your day as early as possible. People are showing amazing results! There is no limit to admiration when all the work is done before lunch and there is time left to do something else or do something for fun.
10. Traveling is one of the ways to change yourself and your life. You don’t have to fly to distant Australia to understand how diverse the world is. You don't need expensive tours to realize that there is no point in counting your small space the entire Universe - it is much wider and goes beyond the limits of consciousness. Traveling makes a person more tolerant, more forgiving of his own and others’ weaknesses, wiser and calmer.
11. Creativity allows you to completely change your worldview. Creativity develops the right hemisphere, which helps us do several things at once without ignoring details. It doesn’t matter what type of creativity you do. The process itself is so captivating that there is no time left for sadness, melancholy and despondency. Much of what seemed unrealistically important and brought pain recedes and becomes secondary, and then completely disappears without a trace if a person is passionate about something. You can do:

• photography,
• drawing,
• singing,
• dancing,
• design, etc.

The main thing is that the work should be enjoyable. Perhaps in the future it will be able to generate income. Realizing yourself in something is very important!

Creative activity has amazing therapeutic properties. It allows you to experience the pain of loss, melancholy, and hopelessness.

1. Sports activities tone the body and provoke a surge of happiness hormones(and improve metabolism). And this is exactly what we are trying to achieve. Therefore, regular physical activity must be one of the points in the plan to change your life.
2. Need to get out of your comfort zone. To get started, you don't need to do anything extreme. It’s just worth visiting a place you’ve never been to, getting to work a different way, changing appearance or image. Even simple rearrangement of furniture helps. Sometimes exit is a painful process, but more often than not it is what encourages you to start a new life. This is quite interestingly written in the book of the same name “How to get out of your comfort zone” by Brian Tracy (MYTH publishing house). It is worth reading for anyone who has decided to take the path of changing their life.

1. It is necessary to restore order in the financial sector. Control of expenses and income, investments and other economic aspects must certainly be present in the plan of a person who wants to change his financial situation. Since nothing can unsettle you like financial difficulties. A blow to the wallet stops us on the path to change and at such moments even thinking about creativity and healthy eating I do not want. Include the problem of money in your Checklist: take on an additional part-time job, pay a loan on time, change jobs, ask for a raise, etc.
2. We need to throw away unnecessary things. Do not take them to the barn or garage, but rather get rid of them or give them to someone. And constantly maintain balance - by acquiring new things, removing old ones. Old things are the ballast of the past. Which follows you until you remove it from your eyes. To remove it, you need to throw it away. Psychologists advise going through your things as often as possible and throwing away those that you have not used for more than one year. The Internet is replete with a large number of projects about getting rid of unnecessary things that really produce results.

An interesting interview with a blogger who promotes and proves by personal example that you can and should get rid of unnecessary things, as well as what this leads to.

1. It is important to be able to accept the world “with all its giblets.” Refuse assessments and analysis, take a neutral position, or better yet a positive one. Very good at teaching you to see in everything positive sides wonderful book Elinor Porter "Pollyanna" You should read it to the end, this girl, the heroine of the work, will teach anyone to enjoy life, even the most inveterate pessimist.
2. Leave the past in the past. This needs to be done! To move on! No matter how good or bad this time is, it will drag you back, which is dangerous for positive change. We must say “thank you” to him for the lessons, experience, good impressions, pleasant memories and other positive moments and let him go in peace. The past has no place in the present, much less a happy future.

And you also need:

• give more than take,
• share your knowledge,
• do not be afraid and do not stop in front of obstacles,
• do what you like;
• develop;
• study;
• change from within.

Of course, that's not all. There is no limit to perfection. But all the ways to change your life for the better come down to the fact that you need to change yourself first. And then the world will be transformed in response!

But what prevents you from starting to live in a new way? The enemies of positive change are the mistakes reformers make. It is they who lead to the fact that any positive decision ends in defeat and a return to the original position, if not worse.

5 mistakes that stop positive change

1. The main aggressor opposing positive changes is our brain. Very often people forget that its function is to save lives, and not to make a person financially secure and happy in all areas. And he perceives the usual way of life, the established way of life, as a safe niche for existence. Anything beyond this will be met with hostility. That is he considers everything new dangerous and threatening to human life.

Therefore, when making an important decision to begin positive changes, it is important to first agree with yourself. Failures will be avoided not by the specificity of goals (although this is also extremely important), but by the simplicity of the steps to achieve it. That is, the most immodest aspiration should be described in such a way that our defender does not have the desire to give a signal to record the dream as unrealizable.

This influence itself is easy to notice when, for one specific positive thought in terms of changes for the better, there are a million thoughts-excuses from implementing the goal in life. For example, have you decided to run every morning? What about:

• Bad weather?
• Will people watch?
• There are no normal sneakers!
• I have absolutely no strength to do anything today!

Therefore, you need to think through everything down to the smallest detail!

1. It is often believed that to start changes you just need to make a decision and that’s it, then somehow everything will work out on its own. Of course, a solution is necessary. But to realize a goal, it must be specific. Well, it’s not enough to say: “That’s it, tomorrow I’m starting a new life!”, without having an idea of ​​what it will be like in principle. If there is no clearly defined task, there is no understanding of what exactly the result should be, then all the advice on how to change your life for the better may turn out to be useless. Because the lack of specificity deprives the brain of the opportunity to understand the goal and provide a solution to the problem in the form of steps to action.

1. The third mistake is the desire to achieve something without an appropriate supportive environment. This is real, of course, but it will require a huge amount of mental strength and nerves, the presence of the most iron willpower in the world and persistent, unbreakable motivation.

There will always be someone (and more than one) who will undermine confidence and try hard to persuade you to quit something new. life path. Perhaps these will be close friends. Of course, you shouldn’t break off an expensive relationship. But enlisting the support of a community that shares views on a new life is very important.

1. Another mistake that many people make when embarking on the path of change is the lack of encouragement. They should be for even the slightest achievements. Because everything needs balance. And it is necessary that the discomfort from changes (and it will be) is equalized by pleasant, albeit small, gifts to yourself. For example, in a week of proper nutrition - good cream for the body you have long dreamed of. In a month - a beautiful dress. This is, of course, for women. Men have their own stimulants and motivations.

1. Mistake #5 - not telling anyone about your decision to start a new life. This happens because of the fear that nothing will work out. And in fact it leads to the fact that it is not possible to implement the plan. A saving thought arises in my head: “It’s good that I didn’t tell anyone anything,” etc. In general, a vicious circle. It is not right. You need to speak about your decision, loudly and confidently. This fact imposes some obligations and indicates the seriousness of intentions. And gives strength and energy for success!

Boldness and courage in any endeavor are components of future success. But besides this, some other aspects are important.

1. Start your day right. Avoid office conversations in the morning tapa “I’m so tired of morning traffic jams. The workday would soon be over. The children don’t listen to me at all, I’m exhausted. I'm completely exhausted." Think about the pleasant things in your life, smile more often. Mentally record every time you think about something negative and transform it into something positive.
2. Appreciate what you have. We constantly want to achieve something, to get something that doesn’t exist at the moment. Always. Having acquired one, we immediately begin to think about the next item on the wish list, which is endlessly updated. And there is no time to simply be happy with what is. And it turns out that life is a game where you have to constantly think about how to move to another level. But it is still very important to stop at least for a short moment and thank higher power for all. The ability to thank yourself, God, the Universe for what you have important point which is often underestimated. Saying phrases of gratitude to yourself allows you to realize the good things you have and gives you strength to receive new things.
3. Take responsibility for yourself. You need to realize that everything that happens is the result of a choice once made. There is no need to blame others for own problems. On the contrary, you should get together and start right now to change the created with my own hands and thoughts about the situation. And continue to remember that no one else can control your life, cope with obstacles and hold accountable for your actions and actions. It's difficult, but necessary. A third party can influence the choice, but only you make it yourself!
4. Help other people, take care of loved ones. Whatever one may say, love begets love, and a good deed done always returns to its source.
5. Listen to your inner voice, trust your intuition.
6. Forgive yourself and others. We all know that forgiveness is the best medicine for the soul. We know, but we continue to carry grievances in our hearts for years, destroying ourselves and our lives with this poison.
7. Eliminate forever from your existence such phenomena as laziness and fear. They are the main obstacles on the road to happiness. Laziness arises because you cannot be transported to another life with one click. To do this, you need to work constantly, constantly act, which you really don’t want to do. But fear can only lead to the fact that, having never decided to step into a new life, you will have to end the old one, without ever knowing what real happiness and joy are.
8. Don't beat yourself up if things don't work out. It is better to praise your efforts and encourage you to take further action, rather than convince yourself of your own worthlessness and abandon all your endeavors.
9. Accept what is impossible to change. Leave it alone. Otherwise you can have all your own best years spend it on fighting something that is not worth it.
10. You need to live your own life, not someone else's. Therefore, you should determine your true desires and goals, and go only towards them, and not fulfill someone’s will imposed from the outside.
11. End the day right. Never go to bed in a bad mood and under no circumstances quarrel with loved ones before going to bed. Go to bed on time, even if you feel that you still have the strength to work. It will be counted for you in the morning.
12. Remember that there is always potential within to change your life for the better. And for this you don’t need “tomorrow”, “Monday”, “when I lose weight”, etc. You can and should start right now!

Go back to your wish list. Review it again and know that all of this is achievable. But you need to understand that even the most shabby dream will remain so if you do not act and continue to live in the power of stereotypes. Expand the boundaries of your consciousness, learn, develop, change yourself. And then amazing changes will not keep you waiting.

A must-watch video on how to change your life. "Instructions for life"

There is a deep-seated feeling in all of us that we must act and think exactly as we act and think. It is consistent with or an expression of our beliefs. If there were no belief, then there would be no manifestation of it. There is something in us that causes us to be overweight, bad relationships, failure, poverty, frustration, etc.

How many times have you repeated to yourself: “ I will never do this again!” Despite this statement, you eat cake again, light a cigarette again, be rude to people you care about, etc., even though the day has not yet ended when you promised yourself not to do this again. And yet we do it.

And then we complicate the problem even more when we angrily tell ourselves: “ You don’t have the slightest willpower!” And this makes even more difficult the overwhelming burden of guilt that we already carry on our shoulders. Instead, tell yourself: “ I want to free myself from the hidden desire to be unworthy all the time. I deserve the best in life and I give myself permission to accept it with love.».

The attitude of many of us towards life is primarily a feeling of helplessness. We have long given up on life with its hopelessness and hopelessness. For some, this is due to countless disappointments, for others, constant pain, etc. But the result is the same for everyone - a complete rejection of life and an unwillingness to see oneself and one’s life in a completely different way. Well, if you asked yourself the question: “what exactly causes constant disappointment in my life?” What is it that you give away so generously that causes others to irritate you so much? Whatever you give, you get back. The more irritated you become, the more you create situations that irritate you. I wonder if you were annoyed now while reading the previous paragraph? If yes, then that's great! That's why you need to change! Deciding to change Now let's talk about change and our desire to change. We all want our lives to change for the better, but we ourselves don’t want to change. Let someone else change, let “they” change, and I’ll wait. In order to change anyone else, you must first change yourself. And you must change internally. We must change the way we think, the way we speak, and the things we say. Only then will real change come. I personally have always been stubborn. Even when I made the decision to change, this stubbornness got in my way. But I still knew that this was where I needed a change. The more I hold on to any statement, the clearer it is to me that it is this statement that I need to free myself from. And only when you are convinced of this from your own experience can you teach others. It seems to me that all wonderful spiritual teachers had an unusually difficult childhood, went through pain and suffering, but learned to free themselves, which they began to teach others. Many good teachers They constantly work on themselves and this becomes their main occupation in life. Exercise “I want to change” Repeat the phrase: “I want to change for the better” as often as possible. While saying this phrase to yourself, touch your throat. The throat is the center where all the energy necessary for change is concentrated. And be prepared for change when it comes into your life. Know also that if you think that somewhere you cannot change yourself, that is where you need to change. “I want to change. I want to change." The forces of the Universe will automatically help you in your intention, and you will be surprised to discover more and more positive changes in your life. Another exercise Go to the mirror and tell yourself: “I want to change.” Notice how this makes you feel. If you find yourself resisting or hesitating, ask yourself why? For God's sake, don't beat yourself up, just celebrate it. Ask yourself what statement or thought makes you feel this way? You have to dissolve it regardless. whether you know where you got it from or not. Go back to the mirror, look deeply into your eyes, touch your throat and say loudly 10 times: “I want to free myself from all resistance.” Working with a mirror helps a lot. Looking yourself in the eye and saying a positive statement about yourself is the most quick way get good results.

How can you change? Change your beliefs

Change your beliefs and your life will change ! Every thought we have can change! If unwanted thoughts come to you all the time, stop yourself from such thoughts and tell them: “Get out!” Instead, accept a thought that can bring you good luck. Self-improvement is based on three principles:

• Desire to change.
• Control over the mind.
• Forgiving yourself and others.

We talked about the desire to change for the better above, let's talk about control over the mind. We are all much more than our minds. You probably think that the mind is responsible for everything in your life. But such a belief is based only on the fact that you think so.

Your mind is a tool that can be used this way and that way. He is always at your service. Turn off the chatterbox in your mind for a moment and think about the meaning of the statement: “your mind is your tool.” And you decide how to use it yourself.

The thoughts you choose create all your life situations. There is incredible power in thoughts and words. And when you learn to control your thoughts and words, you will be in harmony with this power. Don't think that your mind controls you. Quite the contrary, you control your mind.

Exercise "Release"

Take a deep breath and then exhale all the air. Relax your body. Then tell yourself, “I want to be free. I am released from all tension. I am freeing myself from all my old beliefs. I feel calm. I'm at peace with myself. I am at peace with the process of life itself. I'm safe".

Repeat this exercise three times. When you feel like you are in a difficult situation, repeat these phrases to yourself. And then they will become a part of you and will be so natural that all the tension and daily struggle will gradually disappear from your life. So relax and think about something good. It's so easy.

Physical relaxation

Sometimes we need to relax physically. Negative experiences from the situations we find ourselves in and the emotions we experience often remain in our body. One form of physical release from this is the following: close all the windows in the car or house and scream as loud as you can. Hitting a pillow or bed with all your might is another harmless method.

Playing a variety of sports or going for a brisk walk will lead to the same results. I once experienced a terrible pain in my shoulder that lasted a day or two. I tried to ignore it, but it didn't go away. Then I asked myself: “What’s going on, what’s the matter? What annoys me? I couldn't find the answer, so I said to myself, “Well, let's see.”

I placed two large pillows on the bed and began hitting them as hard as I could. After the twelfth blow, I knew exactly what was annoying me. Everything was clear, and I began to hit the pillows even harder and, thus, freed myself from the feeling of irritation. When I finished, I felt much lighter, and the next day the pain completely disappeared.

Liberation from the past

Many of my patients say that they cannot be happy now because they were traumatized in the past. Because they didn't do something they should have done. Because they no longer have what they valued most in the world. Because they have been hurt and cannot love; something unpleasant happened earlier and they remember it. Because once they did something terrible and curse themselves for it. Because they can neither forgive nor forget,

Constantly remembering your past means only hurting yourself. Those who are guilty before us - they don’t care. “They” don’t even know the extent of our pain. Therefore, there is no point in concentrating your thoughts on the past. It is gone and cannot be changed. But we can change our attitude to him.

Exercise “liberation from the past”

Let us consider the past only as a memory. If you remember what you wore in the third grade, then this memory will be without any emotional evaluation. The same can be said about all events in your past.

As we free ourselves, we become able to use all our mental power in the present moment. We can change for the better. Again, watch your reaction. What will you need to do to achieve this? How willing or ready are you to let go of your past? What is your resistance level?

Forgiveness

Our next step with you is forgiveness. Forgiveness is the answer to all questions and problems. I know from my own experience that when we have problems in life, no matter what nature, it means that we need to forgive someone.

Love- the only answer to any of our problems, and the road to such a state is through forgiveness. Forgiveness dissolves resentment. There are several ways.

Exercise “dissolving resentment”

Sit somewhere quiet, relax. Imagine that you are in a darkened theater and there is a small stage in front of you. Put on stage the person you need to forgive (the person you hate most in the world). This person may be alive or dead, and your hatred may be both past and present.

When you see this person clearly, imagine that something good is happening to him, something that means something good to him great importance. Picture him smiling and happy. Hold this image in your mind for a few minutes, and then let it disappear.

Then, when the person you want to forgive leaves the stage, put yourself there. Imagine that only good things happen to you. Imagine yourself happy and smiling. And know that there is enough goodness in the universe for all of us.

This exercise dissolves the dark clouds of accumulated resentment. Some people will find this exercise very difficult. Every time you do it, you can draw in your imagination different people. Do this exercise once a day for a month and see how much easier your life becomes.

Mental Visualization Exercise

Here's another very good exercise. Imagine yourself as a small child (5-6 years old). Look deep into this child's eyes. Try to see the deep longing and understand that this longing is for love for you. Reach out and hug this little baby, hold him close to your chest. Tell him how much you love him. Tell him that you admire his intelligence, and if he makes mistakes, then it’s okay, everyone makes them.

Promise him that you will always come to his aid if necessary. Now let the child become very small, the size of a pea. Place it in your heart. Let him settle there. When you look down, you will see his little face and you will be able to give him all your love, which is so important to him.

Now imagine your mother when she was 4-5 years old, scared and hungry for love. Extend your hands to her and tell her how much you love her. Tell her that she can count on you no matter what. When she calms down and feels safe, place her in your heart.

Now imagine your father as a little boy of 3-4 years old, he is also very afraid of something and cries loudly, inconsolably. You will see tears rolling down his face. You now know how to calm small children. Hold him to your chest and feel his trembling body. Calm him down. Let him feel your love. Tell him that you will always be there for him.

When his tears dry, may he also become very tiny. Place it in your heart with you and your mother. Love them all, for there is nothing more sacred than love for little children. There is enough love in your heart to heal our entire planet. But let's heal ourselves first. Feel the warmth spreading throughout your body. Softness and tenderness. Let this precious feeling begin to change your life.

My schedule

My day usually goes like this: When I wake up in the morning, before I open my eyes, I express gratitude for everything I have. After my shower, I meditate and pray for about half an hour. Then morning exercises (15 minutes). Sometimes I do gymnastics along with the 6 o'clock morning program on TV.

My breakfast consists of fruit and herbal tea. I again thank Mother Earth for sending me food. Before lunch, I go to the mirror and do exercises: I either say them or sing them. These are statements like:

• Louise, you are beautiful and I love you.
• This is the most beautiful day of my life.
• Everything you need to know will come to you.
• Everything is fine.

For lunch I usually eat a big salad. Once again, I bless my food and give thanks. Sometime during the day I listen to a tape of affirmations. For dinner I eat steamed vegetables and porridge. Sometimes chicken or fish. Simple food is best for my body. In the evening I read or study. When I go to bed, I mentally remember the past day and bless it. I say I'll sleep well and wake up in the morning for have a nice day. Sounds strange, doesn't it?

Well, how do you start your day? What do you say or think in the morning when you wake up? I remember the time when, waking up in the morning, I thought: “Oh my God, I have to wake up again. Another day". And I got exactly the day I imagined. One trouble after another. Now, before I open my eyes, I give thanks for good dream and for everything good in my life.

About work

Some of us, dissatisfied with our chosen career, constantly think:

• I can't stand my job.
• I hate my job.
• I don't make enough money.
• I'm not appreciated at work.
• I just don't know what to do.

These are negative thoughts that bring you a lot of harm. How do you expect to find Good work, if you think like that all the time? This is called approaching the problem from the wrong end. If you currently have a job that you hate for some reason, you need to do the following.

Start by blessing your real job, because it is a necessary milestone on your path. You are now where your life beliefs have led you. So, start blessing everything about your work: the building you work in, the elevator, the rooms, the furniture and equipment, the people you interact with there.

If you want to leave this job, then constantly tell yourself that you are releasing this job with love and giving it to a person who will be absolutely happy in it. And know that in reality, many people aspire to the position you occupy at work.

“I am open and ready to accept work that would use my capabilities and talents. This new job will allow me to realize all my Creative skills and will satisfy me." If someone at work bothers you, bless that person every time you think about them.

Although we do not choose this, it is important to know that each of us has a little of Hitler and a little of Jesus Christ... If such a person is critical, imagine him as a person who praises everyone: if he is cruel, tell yourself that he is gentle and fair. If you see only the good in people, then they will show you their wonderful qualities, regardless of how they behave with others.

© Louise Hay. Heal your life. The power is within us. - M., 1996