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Wisdom is an art. Learning the basics of how to treat your beloved man

The most popular question from women at trainings and in psychologists’ offices literally sounds like this: “How to get a man to give gifts?” Surprisingly, this topic often worries young and beautiful, active and charismatic, and not just so-called women of difficult fate, who, due to circumstances or low self-esteem, are unable to force a man to show generosity.
Of course, the main and most important thing that makes a man spend money on a woman is his interest in her. Material investments in a woman are a so-called indicator of the degree of his interest in his chosen one. This interest is especially strong during courtship - when wooing a woman, a man creates an atmosphere with gifts, surprises and special attention. At the same time, for some men this manner turns into a way of life, while others, even in the notorious candy-bouquet period, get off with formal manifestations of attention. Akhmatov’s sacramental “How many requests does a beloved always have, a woman who has fallen out of love never has any requests” does not always work in our lives - sometimes even loved ones, under certain circumstances, do not receive generosity from their men as one of the manifestations of attention.
Psychologists say that gifts are one of the ways of communication, and if a man does not give gifts, this should not be attributed to circumstances such as income level. It is wrong to assume that mostly wealthy men are generous - rather, wise women put more effort into the process of receiving benefits from a wealthy man. If a man is stingy and ascetic towards you, it means that one of the important communicative moments of your relationship has been missed. 5 simple rules will help you establish this balance.
1. Learn to receive gifts. No matter how trivial it may sound, the science of accepting gifts is accessible only to the wisest women. As we have already said, gifts are a way of communication. When giving a gift, a man subconsciously expects to receive a certain reaction. If in response a man hears “Oh, what are you talking about, why was it worth spending money on!” or “Don’t give me flowers - it’s impractical,” a negative story associated with the process of giving will be fixed in his subconscious, even if you wanted to show concern for him in this way and even if he understands it. Gratitude should also be generous! In response to any gift, even a small one, you need to express very positive emotions. In addition, these should not be just words - yours good mood, the desire to be lighter, more pleasant should accompany the process of accepting a gift. A man will intuitively remember the emotions he feels from your reaction, he will feel strong and significant, and he will want to experience such emotions again. 2. Learn to accept gifts with dignity. You should not show that you are ready to be content with little. Women with low self-esteem rarely attract men, and excessive shyness scares them off no less than manifestations of an aggressive material principle. If you come to a restaurant with a wealthy man, you should not order a glass of water - you will only harm yourself. You must believe yourself that you are worthy best gift, and therefore gratefully and with dignity accept what is offered to you.
3. Never ask for gifts, much less beg for them. There is no more pathetic position than asking for a gift. The process of giving consists in the free will of one person to do something nice for another, otherwise the balance is upset, and even if your reaction to the gift is correct, the man will not receive the emotions that he would experience if it were his initiative. Provoke a man to give a gift not with direct requests, but with your comments: “What a beautiful dress!” or “I’ve always dreamed of going there!” Cautious, but not excessive admiration for gifts from girlfriends made by their fans, as well as a positive assessment of the generosity of other men, without damaging the self-esteem of your chosen one, are also quite acceptable. Hints are the main weapon of a wise woman.
4. Do not accept gifts too greedily or aggressively. The problem is not only excessive shyness, but also the desire to get everything at once. If you come to a restaurant with a man on a first date, you shouldn’t order all the best things at once, just like when asked “What should I give you?” You shouldn’t immediately demand a huge diamond and a fur coat. Lack of satiety in a woman’s eyes will scare off a man, who may decide that she sees him only as a resource.
5. Don't show your independence. Even if you are an absolute self-made and accomplished woman with a successful career, be proud of it without compromising your relationships. You should not take the position of an equal partner, emphasizing that you can afford everything that you get from a man. Also, you don’t need to immediately give a man a gift in return - by doing this you deprive him of the feeling of self-worth that he receives from the process of giving.
But the main thing is: no rules work if there are no emotions in the relationship. If a man feels good with you, you provide him with comfort and give him a feeling of harmony, he will certainly want to be with you and pamper you!

Be able to get gifts to be given to you

It is believed that if a woman spares no effort to make a man spend money on herself, then she is a “devourer of men’s hearts.” Be that as it may, but still try to create a situation where the man gives you gifts. The ability to instill in a man the idea that he should give gifts in order to win a woman’s heart is one of the female techniques of seduction. And this, in general, is normal! Another state of affairs is abnormal, in which a man does not consider himself obligated to give gifts to a woman, but she puts up with it. And yet the man still believes that he is fine.

A woman should not be given to a man without any effort, just like that! This is an unshakable rule of relations between Him and Her. By the way, the entire world of living nature has lived according to these laws since ancient times. This law states that in order for a man to conquer a woman, he must not only try, but also strain his strength and give her pleasure. This is understandable: only what is achieved with effort and difficulty is truly valued. If the process of conquering a woman requires effort from a man, then this awakens his masculine essence, he feels more keenly that he belongs to his gender. Thus, be able to convey to the man your confidence that you are worthy of gifts. Let him know that you are something worthwhile, that valuable “prey”, for the sake of which it is worth trying!

And if a woman does not expect or demand anything from a man, will he truly appreciate her? No. Perhaps he will even praise her, but, in fact, he will only use her location, nothing more.

But when encouraging a man to “the process of conquest,” show a sense of proportion (I never tire of repeating it). Don't be always dissatisfied and insatiable, otherwise, instead of fueling his interest in you, you will achieve the opposite effect. By showing eternal dissatisfaction, you, instead of awakening in him masculinity, on the contrary, drive him into complexes and cause in him a depressing feeling of his own inadequacy, which is so depressing to the male psyche.

I know one young woman who is amazing at what is called “organizing” gifts for herself. She has a whole “list” in her head of what she would like to have (by the way, she especially loves gold jewelry!). Moreover, these are not some abstract thoughts, but very specific positions: she has already looked for these things for herself in stores, knows their exact price, etc. After that, she just waits for the right moment. On the eve of the holiday (and not only), she skillfully guides the conversation to the desired topic, almost leads, while walking casually, a person to the desired store and... the admirer has no choice but to make her dream come true! At the same time, she so sweetly and directly pours out warm gratitude to the donor that he feels elevated from a sense of his own importance. In short, everyone is happy. However, I think that I have not discovered anything new here for most women, because many of us do something like this.

Important note. Match your “appetites” with your man’s financial capabilities. If he does not have the opportunity to give you expensive gifts, then with your pretentious demands you will only cause an inferiority complex in him, and this negatively affects the male psyche (and not only!). In the end, you yourself chose this man with his material capabilities. In addition, there are many gift options that can please a woman. You just need to help the man show attention to you. Here are some good ideas for inexpensive, but sweet gifts for a woman’s heart. I think every woman would be pleased to receive French perfume from a famous expensive brand, even in a small, trial bottle, a widely advertised cosmetic novelty (for example, lipstick, mascara, foundation, etc.), a superbly illustrated book (for example, about hairstyles or facial skin care, etc.). The list goes on. In this case, it is best to go for a gift together, this will avoid failure in the choice. Trust your man to buy flowers and sweets for you on his own.

Be sure to warmly thank your loved one for the gift; this encouragement will be an incentive for him in the future. What could be more pleasant for a man than the look of a woman’s sparkling eyes and gentle words of praise!

A man will be pleased if you also show signs of attention towards him. But keep in mind that a normal man does not expect a woman to give him expensive gifts. It is generally accepted as a matter of course that a woman is inferior to a man in terms of financial solvency. Let your gifts be cute, original and, to some extent, romantic surprises for him. For example, give him an original, funny car keychain, an elegantly designed notebook or a fountain pen, an unusual alcoholic drink, a book about the subject of his passion. However, eau de toilette or shaving lotion, but of a higher class than those that he usually buys for himself, along with widely advertised new products, will be for him a nice gift. Don’t give men ties; most often they prefer to choose them themselves!

– Be able to instill in your loved one the idea that he should give gifts to win you over!

– But at the same time, do not show eternal dissatisfaction, so as not to instill in a man a depressing feeling of inadequacy!

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“We have been living together for more than ten years. He loves me very much, I know that. But he never gives me flowers. I gave it once when I proposed. And again about five years ago on March 8th, when I was crying.” - one friend says to me - “How is it that your husband gives you such bouquets for no reason? Has it always been this way? Or is there a secret?

I'm smiling. There really is a secret. First, I’ll tell you the background story to make it a little clearer.

When my husband was courting me, he gave me flowers quite often. So on March 8, while I was sleeping, he went to the store and stood in a huge line in the cold (this is Siberia!). And with my last money I bought a pot of tulips. We were already living together then, waiting for the wedding. I was more relaxed about many things. Then this act - buying flowers with the last money - aroused admiration. I was happy and grateful.
And then family life began. And the greater the crisis we experienced, the more I silenced my desires. Because food was more important than clothes or flowers. They will wither anyway, this is impractical. I counted every penny. And when my husband bought me something, for some reason then this exact amount was not enough for something important. For vital things.

Why? Because I felt guilty. We are in a difficult situation. I have no right to want to be beautiful. I have no right to ask for flowers or decorations. This is not the place, not the time, not now. I told my husband about this more than once - what happens next, it doesn’t matter. And he took it for granted. We really don’t live in lordship, debts, problems, loans...

And then there was an indicative case for me. Our child was turning one year old. Two weeks later we flew to St. Petersburg for good. And there was very little money. Even a month of life was not enough. And I liked the earrings. Expensive and very beautiful. And by some miracle my husband decided to make my dream come true. For my son, he gave me a huge bouquet of roses and earrings. This was half of our take-home budget. It's romantic, isn't it?

I was happy. And then I reproached myself for the fact that we couldn’t afford it, that it was too much. That we wouldn’t have enough for that much later... But the earrings were very beautiful - I wore them all the time. They gave me mixed feelings, but at times the joy still outweighed them.

A month of living in St. Petersburg has passed. We had already run out of money, my husband began to look for opportunities to earn money, housing…. And I... I lost one earring. I still don’t know where or how. We searched the whole house, all the yards around. But she disappeared.

I didn't feel worthy of such beauty. It was too expensive for me. I blamed myself too much for my desire. It seemed that instead of earrings it would be possible to have fewer problems with moving. It cost exactly the same to rent the apartment we found – with a deposit and agency fees. Just enough to conclude an agreement...

Need I say that my husband was also upset? Since then, all holidays have been the same for me. No gifts. Flowers are wildflowers at best. And my husband would like to please me. But did I give such an opportunity?

I tried to quickly pass by the flower shops, telling my husband that this was nonsense and I didn’t need it. That I am above this is a waste of money. And it would be okay if I were honest at this moment with myself and with him. But in fact, I dreamed of bouquets. About gifts. About all these “unnecessary” little things.

In general, these are my initial data. Three years ago - holidays without gifts, flowers - at best, wildflowers. Empty closet. Just simple carnations to keep your ears from getting overgrown. And constant guilt and self-pity. And it’s a pity that I’m so unhappy. And I can’t change anything - it’s shameful and wrong. Impractical. The key word is impractical.

Today is completely different. Flowers live with us all the time. With all our movements. I don’t always even manage to take bouquets with me - one of the last ones - the most gorgeous of 51 roses - had to be left in Moscow. For every holiday I have a gift. And new dresses... My husband himself is already sending me links to interesting and beautiful models. For speaking at the seminar, he gave me several quite expensive designer dresses.

Maybe they replaced my husband? No, my husband is the same. According to your passport and appearance. But inside it's completely different. He becomes like this when I change.

To move from point A to point B, it was important for me to convince myself why I have the right to do this and what is the benefit of it.

Whether a husband gives flowers and gifts does not depend on the qualities of the husband. This is a projection of the wife. Does she know how to accept, does she consider herself worthy? Therefore, it is useless to make scandals. You need to look for what is inside you that is preventing this. There are no greedy men. There are women who spare money for themselves. Or women who are unfaithful to their husband in their minds - and compare him. Or women who hammer and saw a man, thereby killing all his desire to be a romantic. Therefore, we ourselves need to change. Do you want flowers? Look for what is preventing you from doing so. And the husband is just a mirror.
If the woman in the house is unhappy, then everyone will be unhappy. She is the atmosphere of the house, its comfort and joy in it. That is, doing everything is pointless if you yourself are depressed and sad. And it’s easy to recognize a depressed woman - she doesn’t try to be beautiful. It doesn’t take care of itself, doesn’t dress up, doesn’t bloom, but withers and fades. In a rotten atmosphere everyone will be rotten.
To be happy as a woman you need to feel beautiful. No matter how you advance spiritually, as long as you live in a family, it is important for you to please your husband. And to myself. Mother Teresa could only afford two saris and one slippers. But she is a different person, and her purpose in life is different. And she was adorned with the light of her soul and virtue. IN family life a woman wearing nothing but a baggy sweater for ten years can only ruin everything. Your own self-respect, your husband’s admiration, your children’s respect.
Every gift from a husband increases his ability to earn money.. They say it was invented by women. But I don’t care who came up with it – I see the connection. From those projects that were very successful, my husband gave me jewelry. And they became even more successful. If he forgot about this, projects remained in the development stage and were ineffective. When you don’t allow a man to realize himself through gifts, he misses out on a lot. Because the goddess of prosperity, Lakshmi, bypasses those men whose wives are sad or deprived of gifts. It is believed that if a husband gave his wife a piece of jewelry, then he opened up the opportunity for himself to earn an amount 10 times the cost of the item!
An honest confession of your desires. Especially for myself. I must admit that yes, I am so selfish and arrogant, I want bouquets, decorations, dresses! Yes, I am so financially concerned, I want beauty, gifts. Even if we don't have money right now. Even if there are few of them. Even if they are needed for something important, we may be building a house and that’s it. The most interesting thing is that with this approach, when a woman denies herself everything, the house will take longer and harder to build. And if she first takes care of her beauty and happiness, allows herself to be looked after, everything will go differently.
The amount of money in a family is limited by our brain. Forcibly tying the value of the gift to household needs only harms. In fact, a man can suddenly earn the same amount “on top.” If a woman does not feel guilty and knows how to rejoice. Even if a man is not supposed to earn more, but he makes a woman happy, the money will come. Especially if a woman in her head does not feel guilt and shame for money “uselessly spent” on her. Anything spent on a woman with pleasure is an investment. This is money well spent!
Forget the word “practical.” It's not for women. Phrases - “Instead of flowers, buy me a slow cooker”, “You’ll buy it later, don’t waste money”, “Why haven’t I seen flowers” or “It’s too expensive” - lead to the fact that you will then wonder where the flowers are on March 8 and birthday. Why doesn't he give? You said it yourself, it’s impractical, it doesn’t matter. He thinks so himself. And if this makes no sense even to you, then why?
Ask. Hint, show that this is important to you. There's no need to run past flower shop, afraid that he would somehow take it and be offended. Stop - look, sincerely admire some bouquet. And calmly move on. He won’t always immediately come in and buy what you like. Although over time this happens more often. Just show him what you like. Stop near a jewelry store and honestly say that there were beautiful earrings there. If he wants, he will ask which ones. But he will definitely understand that you like the earrings. And that you like flowers. Don’t push, don’t expect someone to buy right away. Just show him - and yourself - I like it, I deserve it.
Rejoice! It is very important. Moreover, the joy must be real. If the husband has never given flowers, then one rose is a breakthrough. Huge. Taking off is the most difficult thing than reaching the skies after accelerating. Therefore, you need to compare not with your neighbor, not with Valyaeva’s husband, but with himself. For him this is a breakthrough, and he needs to rejoice at it as a breakthrough. It was as if he had brought not just one rose, but at least fifty. A man likes to see a woman's joy. Then he reinforces in his head that in order to please her, he must bring flowers. Sometimes not the first time.
Husband thrives on praise– I also brag about his gifts, which gives him even more masculine strength. When I think well of him, he receives many, many bonuses from above. Now imagine that everyone to whom I show off my bouquets also praises him. And he receives many, many more bonuses. He brings joy not only to me, but also to all those to whom I boasted. So feel free to show off your man’s gifts. He will be pleased with this - even if he doesn’t show it.
For a man, spending money like this is always a feat. Regardless of the cost. They are more practical; they do not understand why so many clothes or rings are needed. Therefore, you need to perceive any gift as a feat. Even if the gift cost a hundred rubles. My husband told me how hard it was for him at first - how sorry he was for money, it was unclear why. And then - I understood. When you saw my shining eyes, joy. Which lasted more than one day, or even two.

These are probably the most simple recipes achievements desired result. This process will most likely take several months or years - depending on how long you have used your behavior to wean your husband from caring for you. And how far you have pushed yourself in your value system. How taboo and bad is it for you to spend money on yourself.

But you can do it. When you start taking care of yourself, others will start taking care of you. If you start looking after yourself, your man won’t stand aside either. Stop being greedy on yourself and he will become generous.

Of course, this is not the main thing in a relationship. But if you dream about it and really want it, why deceive yourself that this is nonsense? Let such little things make you happy - what difference does it make? The main thing is the result. A happy woman is the basis happy family, success of the spouse and a happy world.

All the flowers in the photographs were given by my husband over the past six months :)

Olga Valyaeva

Hello, dear readers!

In this article we will discuss a topic called “ how to get a man to give gifts" Women's wisdom is not inherent to all representatives of the fair sex. It’s good that it can be developed, and the advice of experienced ladies will help us with this.

The question remains open: why do fans and husbands give some women gifts, while others receive presents exclusively on major holidays? It's worth looking into this. If your loved one doesn't give you gifts, don't be so quick to label him or her "stingy." Perhaps the problem lies with you.

See also Quite often, without noticing it, we push our other half towards an erroneous model of behavior. Therefore, before you begin to doubt the sincerity of your loved one and ask questions about why a man never gives gifts, it is worth finding out the reasons for this behavior.

A man interested in a woman tries to attract her attention. Various tricks are used, which all young ladies fall for. These are gifts, courtship, surprises, romance that makes your heart skip a beat. It is interesting that some men never cease to amaze women throughout their lives, while others, even during the tender period of meetings, are not particularly generous with gifts. If a loved one doesn’t know how to give gifts, we’ll teach them; if they don’t want to, we’ll tactfully force them.

There is no need to justify his reluctance to please him by lack of money. Believe me, you don’t need much for this purpose. If a man has stopped giving gifts, then it’s worth looking into your relationship with him. Male and female thinking are completely different; what is normal for a woman is a secret behind seven seals for a man.

How to encourage a man to give gifts

There are simple rules that will help you understand the situation.

1. Receiving a gift is a whole science

Gifts are communication; wise women have mastered this science perfectly. The person giving the gift expects a certain reaction. What do many ladies do? They say: “no need to spend money”, “it’s expensive”, “the flowers will wither tomorrow” and so on. How does your loved one feel? Surely disappointment, because he didn’t expect such a reaction from you.

Be grateful for any gift and show your appreciation right away. Appreciate absolutely everything from a trinket to a more expensive gift. If you are presented with jewelry, wear it for any occasion, household appliances use while touting functionality.

Accepting a gift should be accompanied by positive emotions and inspiration. A positive attitude towards giving gifts will be imprinted in the man’s memory, and he will do it more often.

2. Value yourself

A woman who saves on herself provokes a man to save on her. You shouldn't worry about your loved one's money. If he wants to give you an expensive present, let him give it. Never say that it is very expensive and you can do without this or that cute little thing.

Ask him for advice when buying this or that item. Over time, he will begin to understand your preferences and will be able to independently buy what you need.

Having received the gift, thank the man from the bottom of your heart; he will be pleased to know that he managed to surprise his woman. Tell him how caring and attentive he is, and the man will surprise you with pleasant surprises more and more often.

3. Don't beg for gifts

Giving a gift is about making a man want to do it, and not act based on your prompts. Let him take the initiative, otherwise this offering will not be a surprise for you, and the man will not experience joy.

If you want to receive something as a gift, master the technique of hints. Give hints so that what you want is imprinted in the man’s memory. Never say to a man the phrase: “you must.” A man is a stubborn creature by nature, so he will prove that he doesn’t owe you anything.

4. Accept gifts with gratitude

Modesty, however, like greed, frightens a man. It may give the impression that it is being used. If your loved one asked what kind of gift you would like to receive, you should not order a mink coat or a car; be a little more modest in your desires.

A man, when he is ripe, will take the initiative and surprise with his present. Remember how little children rejoice at gifts. They don’t ask unnecessary questions about the cost of the gift, but simply experience positive emotions that are passed on to others.

5. Demonstrating your own independence

Being a wealthy woman, I shouldn’t brag about it, saying that I don’t need anything and I can buy it myself. This attitude discourages your loved one from giving gifts. Some women try to immediately take a retaliatory step, this can offend a man.

Do you want to please your loved one? Take care of the atmosphere and the appropriate mood; believe me, choosing a gift is twice as pleasant as receiving it. A man who doesn't know how to give gifts will learn if you become an example for him. Give him inexpensive, touching gifts, and he will reciprocate your feelings.

It happens that men get lost in the variety of different gifts, so they don’t bother clear heads with such an activity as looking for gifts for the woman they love. If you come across such a specimen that doesn’t understand hints, it’s time to make a list of what you would like to receive for the next holiday. This will make the task easier and he will exceed the plan.

If all the above advice does not work, this may mean a man’s indifference to a woman, his selfishness, and material stinginess. A person who does not feel the need to pamper the woman he loves is unlikely to change.

In this case, it’s up to you to decide, are you ready to live your whole life with such a person? Dear ladies have learned to lead their other halves, and unnoticed by them. It’s not for nothing that they say that a man is the head, and a woman is the neck. When applying the advice in practice, do not forget about tact, wisdom and the rules for accepting gifts.

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Which man is better to start a serious relationship with? With a man who is so generous that he can use his last money to buy his charming companion a gorgeous bouquet of flowers and take him to an expensive restaurant, but who then survives until his salary on crackers, water and noodles instant cooking? Or is it better to choose as a life partner a tight-fisted peasant who thinks about the future, but scrupulously saves every penny? Who to choose - a spendthrift or a miser? Ideally, you don’t need to go to extremes, but...

But if Cupid brought you together with a tight-fisted representative of the stronger sex whom you loved with all your heart, then get ready to study specialized literature, interview your friends and read this article about how to teach a man to give gifts with or without reason.

Why doesn't a man give gifts?

First, you need to answer the question why some men are in no hurry to give gifts to their significant other. And completely odious men generally consider it unfair that making presents is the prerogative of the stronger sex.

Of course, guys are not obligated to give gifts to their favorite girls. But sweet surprises with or without a reason, as a rule, indicate that a man wants to do something pleasant for his beloved, wants to please her. Emancipated ladies believe that gifts in a relationship are not the main thing. One could agree with this, but feminists often go to extremes and begin to either completely refuse men's gifts, or they themselves begin to give surprises to their halves. But you need to understand that for a girl, what is important in a gift from a man is not the financial aspect, but the desire and opportunity to please her loved one.

If a man doesn’t give gifts, then...

He does not have great feelings for the woman. He just doesn't love her.

He is immensely in love with himself. And his reluctance to please his girlfriend with a cute present is only a consequence of his reluctance to share what he has.

He is an extremely stingy guy. It is quite possible that such a man will be stingy not only in money, but also in emotions and feelings.

When classifying your “economist” into one of three categories, make allowances for both the man’s upbringing and his financial capabilities. And now we come close to the question of how to get a man to give gifts.

It's no secret that there are dynamo women who hype all men for various gifts. But how ethical is this behavior? If you have barely met, that is, your relationship is in the initial stage of development, then the man may not like your pressure and he, frightened, will simply run away from you, dropping his slippers. You need to wait until the relationship between you becomes close and trusting. Having made sure that the gentleman loves you and values you, and does not give gifts solely out of his own stinginess, then in such a situation it’s time to show feminine wisdom, cunning and ingenuity. Use one of the methods below.

A hint is a delicate matter! Try to unobtrusively hint to your lover what you would like to receive from him for some holiday, for example, on March 8th. If your life partner is a sensitive nature, then there is no doubt: he will understand everything from the first word. However, most representatives of the stronger sex do not understand transparent hints. In this case, having become angry, express your desires directly. Eg, if a man doesn't give gifts and have never taken you to a restaurant, then say with a hint of going to a trendy cafe: “Darling, I really want something delicious!” If a man leaves for a second and then appears with ice cream from the nearest grocery store, then state in plain text: “Honey, you have no idea! Friends told me that a new cafe had opened, serving amazing tasting French dishes! Maybe we can go?!” Frankly speaking, such hints are not effective. Therefore, there is no need to be upset if your attempt ends in failure. Better use another option.

Envy is a motivating factor! If your favorite cheapskate is a narcissistic and very self-confident man, then envy can become a motivating factor that will make him rush to the store and buy you a gift. For example, you can tell your loved one: “Darling, my husband gave my friend Sonya a stunning necklace. Today she bragged to everyone at work...” The text can be varied, the main thing is to arouse envy in your husband and hurt his pride!

Sincere tears! The sight of a crying woman is unbearable! Women's tears are a weakness of men, which can be used to achieve the desired result, in our case - a gift. For example, you can show your husband your sad mood all day long. He, of course, will ask: “Honey, why are you sad?” As soon as this question is asked, immediately sigh sadly, try to squeeze out a couple of tears and babble: “Darling, it seems to me that you are indifferent to me...”. Please note that it is not necessary to pretend to be a meek lamb, i.e. You can throw a loud tantrum. It all depends on your character. Frightened by your hysteria, your husband will begin to calm you down and assure you of sincere love. It is at this moment that you can beg a gift from a man. For some reason, it seems that he will not refuse you. However, keep in mind that these weapons, against which men are powerless, can be used extremely rarely (no more than three to four times annually). If you use tears very often to make a man give gifts, then he will eventually get used to your hysterics and will not respond to them in the way you need.

Strictly prohibited!

God forbid you turn to a man with a pitiful look and with the request: “Sorry, honey, I’m struggling with money. Please buy it for me...” Do not show your poverty to a man, since a poor woman can only evoke pity in him, but not respect. If you nevertheless turn to a man with such a request, then do not be surprised that he gives you small gifts. Remember that luxury gifts are for luxurious women!

Rejoice at every gift from a man, even if he gave you something wrong. Your dissatisfied face can discourage your gentleman from the habit of giving you gifts.

So, in today’s article we talked about how to get a man to give gifts. They also described and outlined in great detail rough plan actions if a man does not give gifts. And at the end of the article we will return to what we talked about at the beginning. Do you need such a tight-fisted type? If the answer to the question is positive, then hand in hand and good luck in re-educating the “economist”!