Treason loved one one of the biggest challenges we have to face in life. They react to it differently. Some prefer not to notice the changed situation in their personal lives, some make scandals for any reason or even without it. Meanwhile, there are some well-defined signs by which one can draw almost unambiguous conclusions about the fact of treason.

Here are a few such signs that have been identified by private detectives involved in such investigations. So, when do we need to be alert and draw a disappointing conclusion for ourselves?

Mobile phone

Changing normal usage habits mobile phone. The phone always remains near the owner, he does not allow other family members to pick it up, which was not the case before. Frequently turning off the phone or setting it to vibrate instead of the usual signal. Does not answer calls while on business trips or other trips.

Appearance

Begins to pay more attention to appearance. Wherein visible reasons does not exist for this, discussing such changes with you is also ignored. Carefully prepares for leaving the house, even if it is a simple trip to a nearby store or a familiar exercise in a fitness club.

The sudden emergence of new interests

A hobby appears, a passion that requires constant attendance at circles, sections, fitness programs. As a rule, such new hobbies begin to take a lot of time, the details are not discussed with you.

Under any pretext, the time spent outside the home increases

A simple trip to the store near the house, which used to take half an hour, is now starting to take much longer. At the same time, the return is accompanied by the fresh smell of his perfume. Usually they try to kill other people's unfamiliar smells with familiar smells. The question of a long absence is irritating.

Time spent at work is increasing

A sudden change in the situation at work, requiring a long stay. In this case, the landline phone is not answered. Long business meetings, sudden business trips, urgent matters long after midnight. All this should not be left without your attention.

Disruption of sexual and emotional connection

If the intimate interest in the life of a woman or man changes, this also leads to a loss of emotional connection. Coldness in the sexual sphere, loss of desire in bed leads to unwillingness to share impressions, discuss daytime experiences and problems.

Frequency reduction intimate relationships for both men and women means the emergence of another interest. The spouse begins to refuse to make love without explanation, sometimes downright defending the intimate parts of the body. Perhaps he is afraid of clear evidence of a connection on the side in the form of scratches, abrasions or other marks.

Less interest in doing things together

If a partner who used to gladly go with you to joint gatherings with friends or devote a lot of time to your common affairs and hobbies has now lost interest in them, this is a bad signal. It is worth being alert and watching your partner if those things that you used to do together with pleasure, now he either offers to do it alone, or refuses them altogether. Your urgent demand to do something causes irritation.

Behavior of friends and acquaintances

The behavior of your friends who are aware of what is happening may change. They begin to hint that they know more about your family than they should. In conversations, there are clearly many hints and understatements. This person may know about the facts of infidelity or even be a participant in the situation. Especially, you should pay attention if he says that he knew your spouse before you. Very often, spouses cheat with close friends or close friends.

Behavior of guests at dinner parties and corporate parties

If one of the guests is clearly pretending not to know your spouse or you feel the increased nervousness of some person. Lovers who are in constant fear of exposure, it always seems that everyone understands this. Therefore, their behavior will be restless and agitated.

Change in attitude towards money

If earlier you coordinated your expenses and your spouse was happy with everything, now he is starting to lack money. Love always requires material costs. In the case of communication on the side, they will certainly increase. It can be expensive restaurants to impress. Perhaps even renting a love nest. Moreover, such expenses can occur for both men and women.

Prolonged stay at the computer

At the same time, your appearance and questions cause strong irritation and anger. Walking on social networks and dating sites, alas, is fraught with unpleasant consequences in the form of betrayal, and even divorce. Therefore, try to understand what exactly your spouse is doing while at the computer.

Surprisingly, many people from those who were cheated on by the second half, for a long time remained blind to what was happening. It even happened that they learned about the infidelity of a spouse from third parties. Why is this happening? It's hard to say, but too much love for a person, as well as too little attention, makes us blind. According to psychologists, there are signs that inevitably open your eyes to the real state of the relationship. Here they are.

1. The emergence of new habits

If your spouse has never had the desire to write messages, and then suddenly it has become a real habit, this is a reason to think. Especially when he writes them in an unusual manner or at an unusual time. Naturally, things like hiding correspondence or sitting over it late into the night are also suggestive.

2. Sudden interest in new music and other things

By itself, musical taste can change over the years, and this is normal, but its cardinal change is still not without reason. It is rather suspicious if a person who has listened to chanson all his life begins to be interested in the Greensleeves waltz. At the same time, hobbies that are absolutely unusual for her or him are complemented, as a rule, by an acute unwillingness to initiate a soul mate into new hobbies.

3. Image change

Usually adult mature people find their image and stick to it for years. Therefore, the fact that at the age of 40 a husband or wife decided to change dramatically can be a sign of infidelity. With women, this observation works less often, because they need less good reason to cut / grow / dye their hair, but still ...

4. Delays at work and stash

Again, let's say, in fairness, that this can be characteristic of both women and men. Excuses like "the chief delayed" - almost a textbook in the ABC of betrayal. The same applies to money. But this is more for the male part, because new passion you need to "drink, feed and dance" for something, right?

5. Mood swings

Either hot or cold. Either your significant other flies on the wings of happiness and looks serene, then it walks darker than a cloud, then it worries and twitches. Almost any cheater is familiar with the feeling of guilt that eats from the inside and makes them behave like a powder keg.

6. Another person

You suddenly notice that your spouse has become a completely different person. The one who used to hold the sofa on his back suddenly begins to motivate and regularly disappear in the gym. Or the weekend, which was a time for two, suddenly becomes his or her private property. This is hard not to notice.

7. Stealth

This may overlap with other points, but the loss of trust is much more serious than delays at work and new haircut. Honesty is the foundation of a relationship. An honest person has nothing to hide and no reason to lie. So here you need to act immediately in hot pursuit. It will be easier for both of you.

8. Intuition

Usually it is characteristic of ladies, but a man can vaguely feel that "something is going wrong." Do not completely ignore these bells. Your subconscious, your soul rarely makes mistakes, we just stopped trusting it. So listen to what is speaking within you.

All these signs are not a direct guide to action, and often you need to think three times (no, ten times) before you start to suspect your soulmate of infidelity. And even more so to bring charges. It's just that sometimes love is blind, and a person does not see the obvious. And yet, our little friendly advice: "Take care of your families, grow love in them, take care of each other so that the word "treason" never appears in your family lexicon."

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Every married man at least once thought about cheating. Experienced psychologists say that even the thought of adultery affects behavior.

A rare man manages to hide his infidelity from his wife. I have a friend who pays a lot of attention to his wife, takes care and does not even look in the direction of other representatives of the fair sex - that is, behaves as a good husband should, and when she is not around (she often on business trips) - sleeps with other women.

He himself motivates his behavior with the confidence that everything in his family life exactly as it should be. Man he does not worry about his infidelity, therefore he does not allow various annoying blunders , and there are no problems in the family - the spouse does not even suspect that her missus "goes to the left."

If a man is well aware that infidelity is bad, that cheating in family life should be avoided, he begins to worry about his adultery. As a result hiding your infidelity becomes problematic occupation , and a man (it is scientifically proven that representatives of the strong half of humanity do not know how to lie as masterfully and believably as ladies) "gives himself away with his head."

A smart wife will always notice treason. To do this, she will not at all need to have such irrefutable physical evidence as the smell of someone else's perfume, traces of lipstick on her shirt and daily delays at work.

A man's eyes give out! True, it is worth noting that in some cases they "do not even hint" about his campaigns to the left. Then 10 signs of treason come to the rescue. After all, a man will not be able to hide everything in any case!

1. Forgetfulness and fatigue

He suddenly began to forget your memorable dates : dating day, weddings. He even remembers your birthday only after a corresponding reminder from the electronic diary. He stop wearing a ring , putting it somewhere on the far shelf of the closet or hiding it in a jacket pocket. He constantly complaining about being tired , explaining the reluctance to have sex or go to the cinema together (restaurant, theater, etc.).

In principle, his lack of sexual desire is the first sign of infidelity. Even if its cause is in him, and not in you. Also one of the brightest signs is that sex has become a banal input-output process: no foreplay and tenderness, a record speed of sexual intercourse. In general, if previously multiple orgasm was the norm for you, and now a single one has become a holiday.

2. Unusual behavior

Depending on the nature of the man and the reasons why he walks to the left, his behavior becomes different from what you are used to. A sharp change in behavior is also a clear sign of betrayal. It should be noted that the behavior changes as if from the inside - outwardly he tries to show that everything between you is the same as before.

There are two options here. If the wife is to blame for the betrayal (at least if the spouse thinks so), then the husband behaves extremely irritably. But if betrayal is entirely on his conscience and, in principle, there is no one to blame but himself, then the spouse, on the contrary, becomes unusually caring, gentle and loving. Let's consider both.

He's soft and fluffy...

So he became a little distant, thoughtful, very considerate and kind. Not a day passes without him giving you some nice trinket or flowers, arguing for his unusual extravagance by saying that he simply "wanted to do something nice." So a man tries to pay off, to compensate for his adventures with increased attention, even if of a material nature.

...then angry and irritable

On the other hand, he can become harsh and rude. If earlier during quarrels he was the first to go for reconciliation, trying in every possible way to smooth out the conflict, now he doesn’t even think about correctness and gentleness. This often indicates that you annoy him, do not suit him sexually. In other words, it simply puts all the blame on you.

3. Distrust

If earlier you had a common profile on a computer, one for two electronic Mailbox, now he created my own profile and mail , putting on both clever passwords. He argues that he receives important documentation from work, - he is afraid that you might accidentally delete it.

If before his phone was lying around, and often he asked you to answer the call, now even in his soul he has conversations with business partners. He don't let go of your cell phone , takes it even to the toilet, afraid to leave the phone unattended, "alone" with you.

The reasons for such behavior does not explain or gives dubious arguments in their favor. For calls and sms when you try not to answer , - for example, goes out into the corridor or simply turns away, covering the phone screen with his hand from your curious or even indifferent looks. At each call, he shudders anxiously.

He began to react inadequately to jokes, to perceive jokes about adultery badly. Any playful hint (for example, "dear, what is that long woman's hair on your jacket, I have short hair") confuses him.

He looks with frightened eyes and rather stupidly tries to get out of an unpleasant situation, to "hush up" it. He became thoughtful. Often he just sits or lies, thinking about something, silent, not hearing anyone and not seeing anything in front of him.

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5. New things in bed

He uses new unexpected poses for you and does it confidently and skillfully. To your "who taught you this?" he replies with annoyance that he saw something like that in a movie.

It may be the opposite - complete loss of interest in bed. The husband no longer hugs you when he wakes up in the morning, for example. He makes remarks about unshaven legs or a "not so" intimate haircut that hasn't been seen before.

6. The smell of another woman

He smells like someone else's perfume. It works only if the "alien smell" has been noticed repeatedly. This also applies taking a shower right after work . He also didn’t have time to say hello to you in a human way, but he already went to wash, isn’t it strange? Previously, this was not observed in family practice.

Women's hair appears on his clothes, scratches and traces of lipstick appear on his body. By the way, because of the scratches goes to bed in a t-shirt hiding your body from you in every possible way. Allegedly because he is cold.

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7. Changes in the car

He painted the car and began to wash it more often, buy new accessories for it. Front the car seat is not retracted the way you are used to , in the ashtray there are butts from thin cigarettes (you do not smoke or smoke cigarettes of a different brand).

Him spending has risen sharply but he argues frequent breakdowns cars. Because of these breakdowns, he is supposedly late home.

8. Image change

If earlier he went to work in jeans and a sweater, without adhering to business style, now he began to wear expensive suits. He became interested in fashion for men's shoes, buys bright shirts, new watches and purses.

He began to take care of his appearance . Enrolled in Gym, to the pool, sometimes runs in the morning, started doing manicures and pedicures, changes her hair. He reacts nervously to your remarks that you like him the way he is, and nothing needs to be changed.

9. New habits

He changed his brand of cigarettes to a more expensive one, buys another shampoo, toilet water, aftershave gel, etc. New words appear in the lexicon, moreover, more characteristic of women , sometimes copies the accent characteristic of his mistress. He became more relaxed in public, often flirting.

10. Jealousy and calculation

The husband became jealous and picky. Constantly looks through your diary, meticulously reads sms . He is looking for something to complain about, so as not to be guilty himself. Moreover, if it allows you to do the same, then the list of messages and calls is often empty. In the phone book there are new phone numbers of men with names close to women (for example, Victor, Alexander), and new women's numbers do not appear.

In the evening, he warns that he will be late and will be later, but he tries to agree on everything - for example, that he will buy such and such products on the way home. He does this so that you do not disturb him every minute with calls.

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I wonder what famous women think about male infidelity? What allows them to understand that a man is unfaithful?

I am still very young and in no hurry to get married, so I can talk not about adultery, but about the infidelity of a loved one. I'm sure you can do without newfangled modern methods- lie detectors and special agencies that send false mistresses to her husband.

There are women who are very sensitive to fragrances - they always remember how their beloved man smells. And if the aroma of other people's perfume is mixed with the natural smell, this is a sure and bad sign.

And simple worldly wisdom invariably works: it’s enough for me to look into my eyes. It is always incredibly difficult to look into the eyes of those whom you deceive.

In addition, I know for sure that one should not strive to call a man to a frank conversation. Phrases like “we need to have a serious talk” help him come up with excuses. The best attack is sudden.

It is necessary to leave the man alone, not to harass him with interrogations and create the appearance of complete trust. And then, at the most unexpected moment, ask him a provocative question. Taken by surprise, he will be confused and will definitely give himself away.

Faithful husbands today are rare specimens. You can always guess about the betrayal if it happened.

If the relationship suits her - both morally and materially (after all, one must think about the family future with children) - and if she really wants to build relationships with this particular man in the future, then she will pretend that she knows nothing. Of course, what does it cost...

Well, if the relationship has exhausted itself and you want to finally put an end to it, then betrayal is a great reason to leave. In a relationship, it all depends on the woman.

A smart woman feels everything, notices everything - and if she wants something, she always gets it. The main thing is to be wise and far-sighted. And don't live on impulses.

Surprisingly, many of those who were cheated on by their significant other remained blind to what was happening for a long time. It even happened that they learned about the infidelity of a spouse from third parties. Why is this happening? It's hard to say, but too much love for a person, as well as too little attention, makes us blind. According to psychologists, there are signs that inevitably open your eyes to the real state of the relationship. Here they are.

1. The emergence of new habits

If your spouse has never had the desire to write messages, and then suddenly it has become a real habit, this is a reason to think. Especially when he writes them in an unusual manner or at an unusual time. Naturally, things like hiding correspondence or sitting over it late into the night are also suggestive.
2. Sudden interest in new music and other things

By itself, musical taste can change over the years, and this is normal, but its cardinal change is still not without reason. It is rather suspicious if a person who has listened to chanson all his life begins to be interested in the Greensleeves waltz. At the same time, hobbies that are absolutely unusual for her or him are complemented, as a rule, by an acute unwillingness to initiate a soul mate into new hobbies.
3. Image change

Usually adult mature people find their image and stick to it for years. Therefore, the fact that at the age of 40 a husband or wife decided to change dramatically can be a sign of infidelity. With women, this observation works less often, because they need less good reason to cut / grow / dye their hair, but still ...
4. Delays at work and stash

Again, let's say, in fairness, that this can be characteristic of both women and men. Excuses like “the boss detained” are almost a textbook in the ABC of betrayal. The same applies to money. But this is more for the male part, because a new passion needs to be “watered, fed and danced” for something, right?
5. Mood swings

Either hot or cold. Either your significant other flies on the wings of happiness and looks serene, then it walks darker than a cloud, then it worries and twitches. Almost any cheater is familiar with the feeling of guilt that eats from the inside and makes them behave like a powder keg.
6. Another person

You suddenly notice that your spouse has become a completely different person. The one who used to hold the sofa on his back suddenly begins to motivate and regularly disappear in the gym. Or the weekend, which was a time for two, suddenly becomes his or her private property. This is hard not to notice.
7. Stealth

This may overlap with other points, but the loss of trust is much more serious than delays at work and a new haircut. Honesty is the foundation of a relationship. An honest person has nothing to hide and no reason to lie. So here you need to act immediately in hot pursuit. It will be easier for both of you.
8. Intuition

Usually it is characteristic of ladies, but a man can vaguely feel that "something is going wrong." Do not completely ignore these bells. Your subconscious, your soul rarely makes mistakes, we just stopped trusting it. So listen to what is speaking within you.
All these signs are not a direct guide to action, and often you need to think three times (no, ten times) before starting to suspect your soulmate of infidelity. And even more so to bring charges. It's just that sometimes love is blind, and a person does not see the obvious. And yet, our little friendly advice: “Take care of your families, grow love in them, take care of each other so that the word “treason” never appears in your family lexicon.”

Surprisingly, many of those who were cheated on by their significant other remained blind to what was happening for a long time. It even happened that they learned about the infidelity of a spouse from third parties. Why is this happening? It's hard to say, but too much love for a person, as well as too little attention, makes us blind. According to psychologists, there are signs that inevitably open your eyes to the real state of the relationship. Here they are.

1. The emergence of new habits

If your spouse has never had the desire to write messages, and then suddenly it has become a real habit, this is a reason to think. Especially when he writes them in an unusual manner or at an unusual time. Naturally, things like hiding correspondence or sitting over it late into the night are also suggestive.

2. Sudden interest in new music and other things

By itself, musical taste can change over the years, and this is normal, but its cardinal change is still not without reason. It is rather suspicious if a person who has listened to chanson all his life begins to be interested in the Greensleeves waltz. At the same time, hobbies that are absolutely unusual for her or him are complemented, as a rule, by an acute unwillingness to initiate a soul mate into new hobbies.

3. Image change

Usually adult mature people find their image and stick to it for years. Therefore, the fact that at the age of 40 a husband or wife decided to change dramatically can be a sign of infidelity. With women, this observation works less often, because they need less good reason to cut / grow / dye their hair, but still ...

4. Delays at work and stash

Again, let's say, in fairness, that this can be characteristic of both women and men. Excuses like “the boss detained” are almost a textbook in the ABC of betrayal. The same applies to money. But this is more for the male part, because a new passion needs to be “watered, fed and danced” for something, right?

5. Mood swings

Either hot or cold. Either your significant other flies on the wings of happiness and looks serene, then it walks darker than a cloud, then it worries and twitches. Almost any cheater is familiar with the feeling of guilt that eats from the inside and makes them behave like on a powder keg.

6. Another person

You suddenly notice that your spouse has become a completely different person. The one who used to hold the sofa on his back suddenly begins to motivate and regularly disappear in the gym. Or the weekend, which was a time for two, suddenly becomes his or her private property. This is hard not to notice.

7. Stealth

This may overlap with other points, but the loss of trust is much more serious than delays at work and a new haircut. Honesty is the basis of a relationship. An honest person has nothing to hide and no reason to lie. So here you need to act immediately in hot pursuit. It will be easier for both of you.

8. Intuition

Usually it is characteristic of ladies, but a man can vaguely feel that "something is going wrong." Do not completely ignore these bells. Your subconscious, your soul rarely makes mistakes, we just stopped trusting it. So listen to what is speaking within you.

All these signs are not a direct guide to action and often you need to think three times (no, ten times) before you start to suspect your soulmate of infidelity. And even more so to bring charges. It's just that sometimes love is blind, and a person does not see the obvious. And yet, our little friendly advice: “Take care of your families, grow love in them, take care of each other so that the word “treason” never appears in your family lexicon.”