With the birth of a child family life begins with a blank page: the wife becomes a mother, and the husband becomes a father. The responsibility for the future family member falls on both parents in the same way as the choice of a name. Parents often have to decide for the child difficult or controversial issues, but top choice they do all the same at the very beginning of life - naming their baby.

Choosing a name before birth

Pregnancy is a special state. Do not be surprised if the fantasy that visited you during this period does not find understanding among relatives. Men, on the contrary, endure the pregnancy of their wives more rationally, turning from windy boys into real fathers of the family. So it turns out the clash of the rational and the ephemeral. After mothers begin to love their future children disinterested, unconditional maternal love which is carried throughout life. What can sometimes not be said about dads, whose love "needs to be earned." Even after the birth of the baby, they look demandingly at his ridiculous movements, as if expecting something incredible. They cannot explain the crazy joy of the mother when the child sat down on his own for the first time or took a bottle in his hands. Fathers are distinguished by a tendency to increase the demands on the child with each new year of his growing up. And there's nothing you can do about it, such is physiology.

The same goes for choosing a name. Fathers want a swift, bold name in order to direct it to the right life path. The father is often ready to give the girl the name of his "first love". Horror! Many mothers are not even aware of such intentions and agree to Masha, Tanya or Natasha.

If the gender of the child is reliably known, you can and should choose a name before his birth. If you find it difficult to determine the exact name, opt for several options. After birth, when you see the child, you will surely understand what the name will do just for your little one.

Determining the sex of the baby at an early stage of pregnancy is now not difficult. He is usually recognized from the testimony ultrasound. But sometimes it is difficult or even impossible to do this: the baby turns away during the procedure.

Now there are electronic programs, helping to calculate the sex of the child, various ancient methods are also used. Some adhere to the "sexological" hypothesis of the sex of the child, according to which couples actively making love produce boys in almost 99% of cases. If parents madly want a daughter, they need to refrain from each other for one to one and a half months.

In addition, it is believed that the appearance of a boy is facilitated by increased eating of meat, herbs, spicy vegetables and fruits, food with spices. But a fruit diet and an abundance of dairy products in the diet will prepare a woman's body for conceiving a girl.

Do not forget about the physiological side of the issue: there are a number of love positions that supposedly increase the chances of having a girl or a boy. The sex of the child is also calculated by tribal genetics, that is, comparing how many children, what gender and in what order were born in the family of the mother and father.

In the end, a woman can feel for herself who is growing inside her: a boy or a girl. Indeed, from the first minutes of intrauterine life, a mother talks to her baby, calls affectionately and gently, lets her listen to music, reads fairy tales. It’s not bad if the baby’s name is chosen in advance, then already in the tummy he will begin to get used to how he is called. But in general, a whole month is allotted for registering a child in the registry office, during which parents must decide on a name.

An excellent option, when the gender of the child is already known, can be this. Mom or dad slowly read out the desired names, pronouncing each one loudly and clearly. At the same time, the reaction of the baby is monitored. If it is especially sharp and tangible, then this means that the name caused an emotion and it can be added to the list of possible ones.

Don't be afraid to choose a name for your baby before birth, don't be fooled by prejudice about redecorating a room prematurely or buying baby clothes for a baby. All this is speculation. The baby should feel care and attention - surround him with warmth and love long before the birth!

The desire to distinguish your child from the crowd, to make him special sometimes comes to a ridiculous, and sometimes to a sad result. And if grandparents are involved in choosing a name, the list options doubles or even triples. Searching for the most rare name for a child it turns into a real digression into history, geography and even literature.

The children's world is as cruel as it is beautiful. Not a single child in the world is immune from breakdowns, nervous shocks and the appearance of shyness. Most often, only parents can protect the baby from negativity. Of course, education, maximum attention and care are essential elements child growing up. But a name that is more like a nickname or too exotic or, conversely, outdated, can lead the child into such a stupor that isolation will become a normal state for him. Therefore, we remove parental individualism, turn on the mind, add a little (!) Creativity and choose a name for the baby.

Alexander and Shurochka

Here I would like to touch on the topic of dividing names into male and female in more detail. Boys are characterized by masculinity, courage, to some extent impudence, rudeness and other masculine qualities of character that are manifested in behavior. Girls are gentle creatures, always flirtatious and affectionate. All this is understandable.

And behind every name is a certain secret meaning and a set of qualities. Each name carries some information, giving to its carrier character traits and behavioral norms. Men get more powerful, meaningful and fast-acting names compared to women. Boyish names should always sound masculine and rougher. Their sound and inner meaning are in no way comparable with the character of girls. Names for girls are softer, with an abundance of vowels and sonorous, hissing sounds. The meaning of each girl's name, affectionately sounding and easy to pronounce, reflects the feminine.

What happens when girls are given "male" names? Are they becoming more determined or more courageous? Take such a well-known maiden name as Alexandra. The name comes from ancient Greek. Once upon a time, the great Roman commander Alexander brought him popularity. It was then that the name got its meaning - "courageous, protector of all people." Much later, this name began to be called girls. According to legend, one of the fathers was expecting the birth of a boy, choosing a name for him in advance. But a girl was born. The father did not deviate from his own and named the newborn Alexandra.

Over time, the initial meaning of the name was reflected in the character of the ladies who wore it. So, Alexandra is characterized as active, a little secretive, possessing good health who is actively involved in sports and knows how to drive a car. She is determined and vindictive. Does not forgive deceit and lies. Sasha does not like to do household chores. In general, all the features of the corresponding male name are transferred to the female. And this obliges its owner to be stronger, which is not so bad in our time.

The name Alexander is euphonious. He has enough diminutive forms, and they are all beautiful: Sashenka, Sashulya, Shurochka, etc.

Zhenechka and Valyusha also have nothing to worry about: their character will be more decisive than that of their peers, and their names will be melodic and sonorous.

As for the "female" names that boys are called, this trend is rarely observed. Basically, the perception of this or that name as purely "male" or only "female" is influenced by society. So, initially the male version of the name Valentine is perceived as a transformation from the female form of Valentine. Therefore, the boy Valya in the school environment, and in later life, may be ridiculed. But the girl Valyusha will grow into a real Valentine with volitional traits character.

Thus, despite the assurances of the adherents of the theory of the sexual differentiation of names, we understand that there are names that are perfect in sound, external correspondences and personally our inner feelings for our baby. And why not call the girl Sashenka or Zhenya, and the boy - Valya, such familiar and bisexual names. In the end, parents make their choice based on inner feelings, and not on the opinion of society, fashion trends or the persuasion of friends.

All parents face the question of how to properly name a child. And it is desirable to make a choice before his birth, since parents are given only a month after the birth to register the baby. Choosing a name is an interesting and enjoyable task. But it is necessary to approach its decision with all responsibility. After all, the name of a person largely determines his character, temperament, and perhaps even fate. So what's the name of the baby?

How to name an unborn child

When choosing a name for their unborn child, parents first of all think about how the name sounds, what it means and what it symbolizes. Many parents, following newfangled trends, name their babies after popular actors or movie characters. Some people prefer American and European names. But most parents still choose names that are common in Russia. If you are thinking about what name to give your child, to facilitate your search, consider the options for names that you can choose.

If you prefer to name your baby one of the popular names in Russia, then keep in mind that the fashion for names is constantly changing. So, for example, the most common names among adults in Russia are the male names Alexander, Sergey, Dmitry, Andrey, Alexei, Maxim, Evgeny and Ivan, as well as the female names Anastasia, Elena, Olga, Natalya, Ekaterina, Anna, Tatyana and Maria. At the same time, such names of boys as Yaroslav, Nikita, Daniil, Kirill, Artem, Maxim, Matvey, Mark and Yegor are now leading in the choice of names for newborns. For girls, parents most often choose the names Sofya, Eva, Milena, Polina, Arina, Alice, Kira and Anastasia. Perhaps one of them will suit your baby.

If you want to find a rare, unlike other name for your baby, I will give you examples of such rather extravagant names that modern parents choose: boys are called Vladlen, German, Rodion, Arsen, Lev and Jan, and girls are Renata, Angelica, Vitalina , Albina, Stella, Snezhana, Eleanor, Lada, Elvira, Nora, Tamila, Elina, Dana and Nonna.

If you want to find beautiful name among Europeans, then, for example, in Germany, Leon and Mia are considered the most common names, in France Luke and Emma, ​​in Spain Daniel and Lucia, as well as Jan, Lucas, Oliver, Christopher, Julia, Olivia, Maria, Lara and others.

Of the American names, the most popular are Madison, Isabella, Samantha, Ashley, Jacob, Michael, Matthew, Daniel, Christopher, Joseph and William. Americans prefer to choose biblical Protestant names, and some of them sound really good in Russian interpretation.

If you don't mind too, find a beautiful name among the biblical characters, or among the saints Orthodox Church check the church calendar. You can take from there any name you like. Or you can give the baby directly the name of the saint on whose day he was born. The decision to name the child church calendar is a good choice. This is what our grandparents did. It is believed that the saint, on whose day the child was born, and in whose honor he is named, will always protect him, guard and help in difficult situations. If you did not find a suitable name in the church calendar on the child's birthday, take the name of the saint on one of the following days. The Church does not recommend taking the name of a saint from the days preceding the birth of a child.

If church name seems outdated to you, you can choose a more modern one, and at baptism give the child the church name of his patron saint. It is believed that if the name that the child receives at the time of baptism, no one knows except him godparents, this makes a person more protected from envy and slander.

How not to name a child

In principle, you can choose any of the names you like, but it is still not recommended to name the baby after a relative or friend who lived a hard life, died from illness or an accident. It is believed that the child named after certain person, can repeat his fate. You can also not call the baby the name of the eldest child who died.

If you decide to name a child after a relative whom you love and respect very much, who lived a long time, happy life, and left behind pleasant memories, why not. Especially if the child really will be something to be proud of.

But be sure to think about how well the name combines with the surname and patronymic. What do the initials look like. Is it possible that something funny or offensive is obtained so that the name of the child does not become an object of ridicule in the garden or school. You should not choose a name that you personally associate with your favorite character from the book, but in real life sounds ridiculous. It is also better to refuse too long names that are difficult to pronounce. And the rest ... think, consult with family and friends, show imagination, and choose the name that will delight you and your baby.

I don’t understand at all the indignation of mothers about the fact that they are not allowed to breastfeed their children in a public place. For a moment, they don’t give you food, but they don’t let you expose your chest. Of course, a hungry child has the right to satisfy his hunger at any time convenient for him, and his mother has the right to feed her child where and when she sees fit. But why do you need to defiantly expose your chest? If you are a nursing mother, you probably assume that the time will inevitably come to feed your child, so take a cape, scarf, snood, and at least a fan, well, something to cover yourself if necessary. In the end, if it so happened that you don’t have anything with you, step aside, turn away, choose a place that is not so crowded so as not to be embarrassed yourself and not to embarrass people. What about specific situation in the museum, then the question, in my opinion, is moot. Here, oddly enough, I am on the side of my mother. Simply because there is absolutely nothing to argue with her. Indeed, what kind of indecency in connection with the exposure of the chest can we talk about if families with children come to the Tretyakov Gallery and do not turn away in embarrassment from the paintings of Rembrandt, David Michelangelo without a fig leaf, do not close the children's eyes, etc. But this is so, as trolling, to annoy the museum administration and the public. In general, I would not drag baby during the season, go to a public place, and then, if the incident took place precisely in the Tretyakov Gallery, then sometimes there are such queues at the cashier, sometimes you can stand on the street for an hour. Why torture a child. And then, after all, it would be possible to step aside again, why feed the baby defiantly in a crowd of people? Feeding babies is such an intimate moment that does not tolerate extraneous looks, strangers, not always positive thoughts, and so on. But this, of course, is a personal matter for everyone. I don’t know all the details, but if I were the museum staff, I wouldn’t quarrel with a nursing mother for anything, and if her behavior, in their opinion, somehow violated the order established in the museum, I would (if I were an employee) offered her stole, scarf, or would take her to a more secluded place. Well, if a nursing mother would start a scandal in response to my (as a museum employee) proposals, defending her rights, she would leave her alone. Why take sin on the soul, enter into a skirmish with her, make her nervous, in the end, everything will affect the baby, it turns out that with your actions you harm the baby, what is it for?

Choosing a name for a newborn is one of the most important issues that new parents have to decide. Fortunately, you can think about how to name a child for a long time, calmly and without haste. As a rule, at the second ultrasound screening, which is carried out at a period of 21-22 weeks of pregnancy, the gender of the unborn baby is already visible.

How to name the child, what needs to be considered?

In our time, the most important thing, perhaps, is the sympathy of parents and harmony.

I. Of course, first of all, both future parents should like the name. Take full list male or female names and choose, literally write down the ones that you both really like. If you like the name, but your spouse does not like it, immediately cross it out unconditionally. As a resultyou will form some kind of list of names that both you and your spouse like.

II. If the parents choose the name themselves, then we get the surname and patronymic as a given. Check the names that are on the intermediate list for compatibility with the patronymic and surname.There are only 4 combinations of first name, last name and patronymic:

• First Name Last Name,
• last name - first name,
• name - patronymic - surname,
• Full Name.

Say out loud all these combinations in sequence. If you managed to pronounce everything the first time without hesitation and completely without difficulty, and even with pleasure, you can leave this version of the name. If you understand that it is not very convenient to pronounce some combinations, cross out this variant of the name.

Maybe you have impeccable diction, but some combinations should still be avoided:

• the neighborhood of a large number of consonants between words: Alexander R omanovich, Kirill Dm itrievich,
• same vowels between words: Alisa Alfeeva,
• identical consonants: Ignat Topunov, Mikhail Leonidovich,
• repetition of the same letters and/or syllables: Tim ur Art ur ovic.

If a child is destined to have some very simple surname or patronymic, beware of choosing overly ornate, pretentious, exotic names so that they don’t turn outElvira Lapteva, Nika Stepanovna. Consider nationality - yours and your spouse's. If you are both Russian, why call the child, for example, a Tatar name?

It will not be superfluous to think also about what patronymic your grandchildren will have. And - if you are expecting a boy - how will this patronymic be combined with the surname.

III. Probably, these exercises in diction and reflection have further reduced your list of names. Perhaps there is already one of the cutest and most euphonious options left. What if not? You can try this method :-) Write the remaining names in a column and ask your spouse to rate each on a 10-point scale. Do the same yourself, but do not negotiate or discuss, evaluate each name silently, without showing each other. Then add up the scores for each option, and the best baby name for your couple will most likely become obvious.

How to name a child according to the Saints?

A simple way, especially relevant for religious people, is to name the child according to the Saints. Saints is a church calendar indicating the days of memory of saints. A number of saints are commemorated every day. You look at which saints are commemorated on the day your child was born, and name the baby after one of them. If you don’t like the names of the saints indicated on that very day, you can see which saints are commemorated on neighboring days, on the eighth birthday, on the 40th birthday. The tradition of giving names in honor of saints promises the child to receive patrons, prayer books and intercessors in their person.

What is another name for a child?

It is not uncommon for children to be named after someone. For example, it can be an outstanding grandfather. Having named the child in his honor, we, as it were, crawl to remember him and hope that the outstanding personality traits will be transferred to the newborn.

How should you name a child?

Do not invent, do not create a name on your own. It is clear that many parents are not devoid of imagination and are able to independently invent a certain name that the history of mankind has not yet known. But is it worth it? After all, your child will live with this name. Do not doom him to every time he spells his unprecedented and unheard of name and every time sees bewilderment and misunderstanding on the faces of those around him. Naming a child after a favorite fantasy or television character is also a bad idea. A fantasy or television series will be forgotten, and a child with a strange name will most likely live with him all his life and, worse, will probably grow up shy and insecure. Do not choose outright outdated names or names that real, living people have never had.

When the first thing parents think about is what it should be called. Some call the child the first that comes to mind, others try to come up with something interesting, and still others refer to church holidays. Today we’ll talk about what the name means for, why it’s so important not to follow fashion, and whether you should pay attention to the patronymic and surname.

The influence of the name on the fate of the child

Almost all parents come up with a name for the child before his birth, or immediately after him, but this does not allow you to name the baby so that his nickname suits him. Since there is a belief that it is dangerous to reveal the name of a newborn until a certain age, you can take advantage of this and wait a bit. If the baby does not have a nickname, then it is impossible to jinx him, no matter how strange it may sound.

After a while, the character of the child will appear, on the basis of which you can come up with a suitable nickname that will definitely suit him.

Separately, it should be said about fashion, which puts a stigma on children. For example, you like the sensational series, and you decided to name your daughter Daenerys after the main character. Now think about how her peers and teachers will call her at school, what the name will be in the abbreviated version and how it will be combined with the patronymic and surname. In a decade, everyone will forget about the series, and the nickname will not go anywhere, so before you name your daughter or son in honor of the movie character, try it on yourself.

Important! Remember that father and son or mother and daughter should not have the same name.

We name the child by date of birth

There are couples who want to give their baby a name that matches a certain time of the year, so next we'll talk about how to name a child born in summer, winter, autumn, or spring.

Winter. Children born in winter are distinguished by their persistent character and determination, but they suffer from problems associated with finding a soul mate. Suitable for winter children soft options(Ilya, Svetlana).

Spring. Spring children are quite selfish, and their main problem is indecision. They do not differ in firmness and perseverance, therefore they require a solid nickname in order to harmonize the inner world. These include Diana, Igor, Dmitry, Daria.

Summer. Summer children are distinguished by purposefulness and an active position. They are always in harmony with inner world, so they can be called by any nickname.

Autumn. Autumn children are stingy with emotions, they are practical and prone to quick decision-making. To add softness to the character, long romantic names should be used, such as Vladislav,.

Separately, it should be said that many parents are concerned about the question of whether children are named after the months of the year. This was practiced in the days of the USSR, but at the moment such nicknames have completely disappeared, so if you call a girl September or a boy August, this will lead to ridicule and excessive attention.

Did you know? The longest name consists of 1478 letters, representing one big word, which contains the names of historical places, famous personalities, as well as scientists. To read it, you need to spend at least 10 minutes.

Name according to the church calendar

Many mothers are interested in what names of children can be used to name a child who was born in a particular religious holiday. This practice is not something new, but it should be understood that most of the names are Old Slavonic, therefore they are not often used.

To choose a church name for the baby, you should look into the collection of saints. The church celebrates the memory of several saints every day, so you can choose from several options. However, it happens that a child is born during a big holiday, for example, on St. Andrew the First-Called, then it is better to give preference to this particular name, especially since it is common.

Important! Even if the baby is born before or after the holiday, the name of the saint can be used.

It is worth remembering that the church name should not conflict with the above principles of choice, that is, it is impossible for the son and father to have the same name, otherwise they will constantly swear.

Name for the child according to the horoscope

Astrologers believe that correct name, which corresponds to the sign of the zodiac, is able to protect a person, give him strength to overcome obstacles. However, the problem is that most of the proposed options are Old Slavonic, respectively, outdated. For example, if you have a girl who is Sagittarius according to the horoscope, then you will be offered inappropriate options, such as: Aza, Alevtina, Louise, Seraphim, etc.

Also, many now popular names are repeated in many signs of the zodiac. For example, Victoria can be used for girls who were born under the zodiac sign of Virgo, Libra, or Scorpio. It turns out that the most common names are simply universal, so they are worn by many children and adults.

Separately, it should be said that there are a huge number of such tables of names compiled according to the horoscope. Anyone can write their own unique list, which will not be supported by anything. For this reason, you should not think that the strange nickname that the zodiac sign offers you can really help the baby succeed in life.

Now you know why you can’t call a child strange names, as well as nicknames of people who have some popularity in our time. Remember that the name can break a person's life, so direct your creativity in a different direction. Do not forget that complex names are often misspelled, so your son or daughter may have problems with documents in the future. listen to common sense and not to the words of acquaintances and friends.